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Keeping my maiden name. Middle name???

Brenda A. Posted: Jan 05, 2000 02:00 PM+

Brenda A. MEMBER SINCE: 2/01 TOTAL POSTS : 381 WEDDING DATE: Oct 22, 2001

Posted: Jan 05, 2000 02:00 PM

Keeping my maiden name. Middle name???

I may keep my maiden name and just add my fiance's. Is it OK to use my maiden name as a middle name. I will not hyphenate and don't really want a huge last name. I know I can use whatever I want, but I guess my big concern is, is it legal?

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LIWeddings Archive Posted: Jan 05, 2000 02:00 PM+

MEMBER SINCE: 12/69 TOTAL POSTS : 18488 WEDDING DATE: Dec 31, 1969

Posted: Jan 05, 2000 02:00 PM

Keeping my maiden name. Middle name???

Brenda, There is no question that it is legal. You can certainly choose any name that you want. I just take it a step further. Why should SHE be the one with the problem of changing names? Why shouldn't HE have the same delema? Why should just you be considering hyphenating? Why don't you both hyphenate? Or at least talk about both of changing names and have the possibility of him changing his name also? Why oh why? SHE gets to lose her name (identity) but HE keeps his no matter what?

I hate the idea of giving up my name but I like the unity a family name brings......

One caution on hyphenation - a friend of mine has recently been ill and has spent many months in and out of hospitals. Her medical records are constantly getting lost because, depending upon the clerk, her name is entered under the first name, sometimes the second name, sometimes both with the hyphen. Its been a real problem and has caused stress when she has enough to deal with already (she has cancer).

LIWeddings Archive Posted: Jan 05, 2000 02:00 PM+

MEMBER SINCE: 12/69 TOTAL POSTS : 18488 WEDDING DATE: Dec 31, 1969

Posted: Jan 05, 2000 02:00 PM

MARK KAUFFMAN-name change

mark,

your a male and i want to thank you for understanding a women's point of view over the name thing. it's not a big deal to a man but most men don't put themselves in our shoes. if i wanted to make my maiden name my middle and my married name my last, do i have to change my birth certificate. i want to drop my middle name my parents gave me. where do i go to get the papers done. please write me back. thanks for you help.

It will serve as a double purpose for us - resolves the favor issue in a meaningful way and allows us to acknowledge the memory of my late mother and Paul's late brother.