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Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?
Wintersbride Posted: Mar 20, 2005 07:32 PM+
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Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

FH's grandmother just passed away. Our wedding will be on her wedding anniversary. We were going to put something on the back of the programs, like a dedication for those who could not be there. FH is thinking he may want candles too. I think it's a nice idea for my grandparents and his.
We are both really sad right now and are trying to find a way to commemorate the wonderful people in our lives who we wish could be there physically, but can only be there in spirit.
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karenk71 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 07:47 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

We are doing a memory candle for his dad (he passed away 25 years ago when FH was very young). I know it will mean a lot to him. I ordered the candle from www.printedcandle.com
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swags1016 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 07:50 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

We also had a memory table which I loved having around us.

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Wintersbride Posted: Mar 20, 2005 07:54 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?


Posted by swags1016

We also had a memory table which I loved having around us.



I noticed a frame on there without a picture but with words. Do you mind me asking what you had on there?
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Moosey911 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 07:57 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

What a wonderful idea---I think I'm going to borrow the memory table idea from you. FH's Grandpa died in 03 and his Grandma just passed away last month, my grandma died a few years back also...what a wonderful way to remember all of them. Thanks!!
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swags1016 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 07:58 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

It was a poem about them and then naming all the people who were pictured and some who were not. I will see if I still have it.
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swags1016 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 08:00 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

Here is the poem:

Although we cannot see you
We know that you are here
Smiling down, watching over us
As we say “I DO”
Forever in our hearts
Forever in our lives
And so we say our vows in
In loving memory of you:


and then you list the names
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Wintersbride Posted: Mar 20, 2005 08:06 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?


Posted by swags1016

Here is the poem:

Although we cannot see you
We know that you are here
Smiling down, watching over us
As we say “I DO”
Forever in our hearts
Forever in our lives
And so we say our vows in
In loving memory of you:


and then you list the names



I love it. Thanks for posting it. I may borrow the idea. I will run it past FH
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Baldshrimp Posted: Mar 20, 2005 10:43 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

Yes, we are doing something in memory of her mother.

I'm sorry that your loved one couldn't be there. My fiancee gets really sad with all the planning sometimes and my mother lives in FL now.


Best Wishes,


Thomas
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FrescaBride Posted: Mar 20, 2005 10:48 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

We are doing it as well. Ordered it from Jean M. We are honoring our grandmothers. The link will take to the unity candle page. Memory candle is on page 2.
Here is the link:link for memory candle
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LO13LO13 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 11:23 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

we are having this candle holder, we are going to light it at the ceremony and then have it moved to our dais, i thought it would be a nice way to have them 'at the wedding' with us
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JPC1125 Posted: Mar 20, 2005 11:34 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

i really wanted to do that but the more i asked around the more people told me it would be depressing to do during the ceremony

plus the priest said its not allowed since its not part of the sacred marriage act


so weve decide dto put the wedding pictures of all our parents and grandparents (dead and alive) as a way of honoring how their healthy many year long marriages have been role models to me and FH
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jpavig Posted: Mar 20, 2005 11:56 PM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?


Posted by swags1016

We also had a memory table which I loved having around us.





I love, love this idea. I'm going to borrow that idea if you don't mind.
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LO13LO13 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 07:11 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?


Posted by Anti-Bride

i really wanted to do that but the more i asked around the more people told me it would be depressing to do during the ceremony

no one is going to know we are doing it, after FH and I light the unity candle we are just going to light the other one right away, it's just for us to know

also i have never heard of a priest not allowing that, i have been to many weddings where it is done, i guess they all have their own rules

go with the pics
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LO13LO13 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 07:13 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?


Posted by Anti-Bride

i really wanted to do that but the more i asked around the more people told me it would be depressing to do during the ceremony

plus the priest said its not allowed since its not part of the sacred marriage act


so weve decide dto put the wedding pictures of all our parents and grandparents (dead and alive) as a way of honoring how their healthy many year long marriages have been role models to me and FH



no one is going to know we are doing it, after FH and I light the unity candle we are just going to light the other one right away, it's just for us to know

also i have never heard of a priest not allowing that, i have been to many weddings where it is done, i guess they all have their own rules

go with the pics
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David'sbride Posted: Mar 21, 2005 09:53 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

As I'm having, hopefully, an outdoor ceremony I didn't want to do a candle in case it got blown out. Instead, I am leaving my mother's seat empty and putting an attachable vase on the back of the seat. I will have a small part of my boquet that will break away from my main boquet and I will place it in the vase in honor of my mother.

Don't ask me what made me think of doing this but I thought of it very early on in the planning.
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july06bride Posted: Mar 21, 2005 09:54 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

both ideas are so lovely and i will be stealing them! I have tears in my eyes just thinking about it
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swags1016 Posted: Mar 21, 2005 09:59 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?


Posted by jpavig


Posted by swags1016

We also had a memory table which I loved having around us.





I love, love this idea. I'm going to borrow that idea if you don't mind.



One piece of advise to anyone using pictures. Please take them to Target or somewhere else and have them color copied. You never know what could happen and you don't want to take a chance. For example with my DH's grandfathers those were the ONLY pictures anyone could find of them alone - G-d forbid something were to happen to them he would have been devestated. Not that the halls are careless but accidents can happen.

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MrsStefan Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:13 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

We would like to have a candle for both of our grandparents and one of my aunts. Thanks for the websites that have memory candles...I didnt know they made them. I think its a beautiful to have them memorialized at the ceremony.
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Anniegrl Posted: Mar 21, 2005 10:16 AM+
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Re: Anyone lighting candles for deceased relatives at your ceremony?

We did a memorial candle for DH's mom. We got both our unity candle and the memorial candle from Wax Inspirations

Both candles were beautiful!
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