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I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

curly2003 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 02:59 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 02:59 PM

I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

I will be removing this shortly for fear they might read it but I needed to get taht off my chest.

Xelindrya Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:01 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:01 PM

Re: I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

How sad.

Im so sorry *hugs*

It's late in the game to do much. Take comfort in the fact the day will happen, you will be happy. Better to have no bach party then a unfeeling one.

Hang in there.

hugs again!

shelzyp Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:03 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:03 PM

Re: I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

I am so sorry that you are going thru this.

butterfly20 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:04 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:04 PM

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im soo sorry.. thats not right when you gave plenty of notice

nj42305 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:05 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:05 PM

Re: I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

Curly,
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this....that it so messed up of them

You have every right to be annoyed by this. IMO, when you accept an offer to be a bridesmaid, you are accepting all the other responsibilities that come with it. I can't believe that your bm can't take off on the day of your wedding...that is INSANE and very selfish of her. We are hear for you if you need to get anything else off of your chest ...

ChristineC68 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:07 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:07 PM

Re: I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:09 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:09 PM

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I am so sorry girl!!!! you do NOT deserve this.
You are such a kind and giving person. Stop getting so upset, I know easier said than done.

If it is any consolation your sister (shyone) really loves you and wants the best for you.

I really hope things work out for you.

curly2003 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:12 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:12 PM

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kal8878 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:14 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:14 PM

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I am so sorry!!! Please know that no matter what your day will be a special one for you!!! That is all that matters.

curly2003 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:18 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:18 PM

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Thanks ladies.

Sassy Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:23 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:23 PM

Re: I rarely vent so please allow me this one time!!!!!!

YOu have me

And a whole bunch of others that care about you sooo much.
Kathy, your sister, your Mother and aunties.
Don't let them get to you.
We've discussed this, there's nothing you can do much now at this point. Tho' I can imagine how you feel, esp. having to plan your own bachelorette party.

You know what I say. Make a mental note for the future, don't bend over backwards for them anymore. And don't let them stress you out this way. As it gets closer to your day, everything will stress you out, but don't let it be these girls. Keep your mind on other things that count. Harass your vendors LOL, and daydream about saying your vows to your new hubby and about your romantic HM in Aruba. These are the things you should try to think about.
It will be such a great day for you, I will be crying like crazy. And I want you HAPPY !!!!!!

franksbride Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:24 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:24 PM

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Hang in there...

We're here for you!!!

jannshari Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:24 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:24 PM

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That s*cks! I'm so sorry that your friends are totally spazzing on you when you need them to be supporting you. Have you talked to them about this? Maybe they don't realize that they are pulling away - I'm sure it's a subconscious thing on their part, and if they love you, they would want to know that what they are doing is hurting you so that they can rectify their behavior.

cw0904 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:26 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:26 PM

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Karina ((HUGS))) People have told me that weddings bring the worst in your family and friends. You get to realize who are your true friends in your wedding planning process. Its sad but true. Some people just really don't think about anyone but themselves. Are any of your BMs been in other weddings? That they don't know the 'rules' of being a BM? Are they young?

Nora101004 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:29 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:29 PM

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I'm sorry your 'friends' are doing this to you, and so close to your wedding. I'll help plan your bach party if you want.

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:35 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:35 PM

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I'm sorry Curly!

Your sister has posted on here before and she always seems so involved in your wedding. Won't she plan the bach party?

EvenEdan Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:42 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:42 PM

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You're right, they do SUCK! I am so sorry because you definitely deserve better. Try not to focus on them, just think of the wonderful man you are marrying and the wonderful life that lies ahead for your both.

curly2003 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:45 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:45 PM

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I am making a mental note now.

Fletch Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:56 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:56 PM

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Hey Darling - I am so sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, weddings sometimes bring out the true colors. There is no excuse for not making every effort to do what they can for. This stinks all around but try to just focus on the wedding day and how perfect it will be. Hang in there!

Alvatorre74 Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:59 PM+

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Posted: Aug 25, 2003 03:59 PM