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Much needed advice...also posted on BHB..

kittyke Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:39 AM+

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Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:39 AM

Much needed advice...also posted on BHB..

Thanks all for positing, I had to delete.

Mary Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:48 AM+

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Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:48 AM

Re: Much needed advice...also post on BHB..

First of all, did you agree to be in her bridal party before or after she did these things to you? If your feelings are that strong, maybe you should pull out and then you would not have any responsibilities.

But, if you still wish to continue being in her bridal party, I would suggest doing your share with the shower (not fair to others working, regardless of bride's obnoxious behavior) and opting out of a group gift for a smaller present.

dubliner Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:53 AM+

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Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:53 AM

Re: Much needed advice...also post on BHB..

I second Mary -

kittyke Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:57 AM+

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Posted: Jul 07, 2003 11:57 AM

Re: Much needed advice...also post on BHB..

Mary, I don't want to pull out of the BP we have been friends for over 10 years, just this crap is bothering me, and what was she thinking after she told her cousin to call me to plan this shower. I think helping and giving a smaller gift is best to do.

Sonicstef Posted: Jul 07, 2003 12:10 PM+

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Posted: Jul 07, 2003 12:10 PM

Re: Much needed advice...also post on BHB..

Honestly, I think you have a lot of pent up resentment against her (for good reason) and as a result, you SHOULD NOT be in her bridal party.

yabbobay Posted: Jul 07, 2003 12:25 PM+

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Posted: Jul 07, 2003 12:25 PM

Re: Much needed advice...also post on BHB..

I think sometimes that people don't know what goes into showers and weddings until they are the bride...

I know my BP was a mess, b/c my sister never contacted anyone b/c she didn't like one of my friends...(b/c she suggested we go away for a bach party...)

I know that she didn't do much, but I know when she gets married that I will go all out for her. mainly b/c I know she didn't know what is involved...

I say take the high road...my sister made flyers for my shower invites...and while I could have done something as equally not nice...I decided to make some fabulous invites...