Am I the only one...

who has had not ONE, but TWO family members respond with 'no' when asked to do a church reading?? I thought they would be honored...guess I was wrong.

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My aunt said no, she is embarrassed to read in public, and asked if she could do something less attention getting, like hand out programs.

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Nope!

We asked DH's aunt to do a reading; she said no. She was afraid she would trip when walking up to do the reading. She totally didn't strike me as the kind of person to be like that.

My one friend I did ask laughed at first but she said she would do it.

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i had someone say no..fsil's fh..
i thought he was joking at first
he wasnt

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I had one.... I was like W T F?????? I don't think I've said five words to that person since not to mention I only asked her since I asked her sister to be a BM and knew she was jealous!

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wow. that stinks. We aren't having readings at ours.

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I wanted to have my 20 yr old cousin read something to be a part of the wedding b/c FH is not really close with him to be a gm. When i asked my aunt (his mom) if she thought he would do it she said he would be too shy.

Now i am trying to convince FH to let him and my 16 year old cousin and 16 yr old brother be ushers and just hand out the programs and such at the ceremony so they can be a part of the wedding. I don't want to intrude on his bonding with the gm on the day of but they are the only family i have and I want them to be able to do something. Hopefully he goes for it.

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Yea my mom and his.. They ended up just doing candle lighting instead of reading

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Some people are very afraid to read in front of people. Honestly, if someone asked me I would decline. While I am outgoing, I just hate being in front of a crowd and presenting something. So, I wouldn't take offense if someone said no.

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its not about being honored i think most people have stage fright.....my aunt said no she said she was nervous , i didn't want her to do it , why would i want someone to be stressed out. i asked one of my bridesmaids who is not shy

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My lovely SIL said no. And its not because shes got stage fright!

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my best friend was like, 'are you sure?' because he's not religious at all, but after that i think he recognized I wasn't asking him to preach, but to read, and he was cool with it, and *i hope* flattered.

I think it's just another wedding related situation where people don't react that way you'd expect/like them to.

I am an English teacher, and I have some kids that are so scared of reading out loud that it like paralyzes them. If I had to turn it down for that reason, I would at least explain my reasoning to the bride/groom. Then at least maybe you could do something like the PP said about taking a less attention-getting role like handing out programs.

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we had some no's...that why we just ended up asking people in the bp