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late RSVP'ers...when to contact

glenisland09 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:33 PM+

glenisland09 MEMBER SINCE: 5/08 TOTAL POSTS : 1456 WEDDING DATE: Dec 31, 2009

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:33 PM

late RSVP'ers...when to contact

My RSVP date is 11/25 - exactly one week from today. We still have a TON of people who didn't RSVP. My Mom (being the eager woman that she is) wants to start calling our side of the list. I asked her to wait until at least the 25th, but she wants to get on it this weekend.

Should she wait until after the date or should she be proactive and follow up now? I'd LOVE to have a final count already, but I don't want to come across as annoying anyone....

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:35 PM+

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Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:35 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

I would do it right after Thanksgiving... like the day after.

coldasice217 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:49 PM+

coldasice217 MEMBER SINCE: 6/08 TOTAL POSTS : 14240 WEDDING DATE: Dec 05, 2009

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:49 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

Posted by BarbieGrl10

I would do it right after Thanksgiving... like the day after.

I would do this too, ONLY because of the holiday. Otherwise I'd probably be on the same page as your mom.

But don't take my advice, my RSVP date was 11/1 and I still have 3 missing RSVPs

Tracey1979 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:51 PM+

Tracey1979 MEMBER SINCE: 3/09 TOTAL POSTS : 2572 WEDDING DATE: Dec 12, 2009

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 01:51 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

Our RSVP date was Thursday 11/12. We started calling people the next day and over the weekend. It is a pain. Start early.

AngnShaun Posted: Nov 18, 2009 02:08 PM+

AngnShaun MEMBER SINCE: 6/09 TOTAL POSTS : 24129 WEDDING DATE: Jul 16, 2010

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 02:08 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

id do it right away...

justme4868 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 03:19 PM+

justme4868 MEMBER SINCE: 9/09 TOTAL POSTS : 351 WEDDING DATE: Nov 05, 2010

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 03:19 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

I won't start until after your RSVP date.

mzmahagony Posted: Nov 18, 2009 03:27 PM+

mzmahagony MEMBER SINCE: 10/08 TOTAL POSTS : 3431 WEDDING DATE: Jul 01, 2010

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 03:27 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

I would start now so that they can sent it by the RSVP date, maybe they forgot that they didnt send them in alreday so a little reminder would be great.

pandafish519 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 03:56 PM+

pandafish519 MEMBER SINCE: 8/08 TOTAL POSTS : 5324 WEDDING DATE: May 16, 2009

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 03:56 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

Posted by BarbieGrl10

I would do it right after Thanksgiving... like the day after.

ita... give people a chance to get past the holiday.

las1 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 05:15 PM+

las1 MEMBER SINCE: 4/09 TOTAL POSTS : 1653 WEDDING DATE: Nov 07, 2009

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 05:15 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

wait until after thanksgiving

glenisland09 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 05:37 PM+

glenisland09 MEMBER SINCE: 5/08 TOTAL POSTS : 1456 WEDDING DATE: Dec 31, 2009

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 05:37 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

you ladies were right.... this process BL@WS! Can't people just stick the card in the mailbox

Thankfully we're super close to our minimum so I don't have that to be worried about anymore!! phew

kater08 Posted: Nov 18, 2009 08:10 PM+

kater08 MEMBER SINCE: 9/08 TOTAL POSTS : 738 WEDDING DATE: Feb 14, 2010

Posted: Nov 18, 2009 08:10 PM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

Calling people before the RSVP date is rude IMO. If you wanted to know today, you shoud have put the RSVP date as today!!

I agree with above--give people until after Thanksgiving.

crazeee18 Posted: Nov 19, 2009 07:27 AM+

crazeee18 MEMBER SINCE: 7/07 TOTAL POSTS : 3348 WEDDING DATE: Nov 06, 2009

Posted: Nov 19, 2009 07:27 AM

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i started calling people 1 week after the rsvp date---there were a bunch of ppl that never called us back or gave us a yes or no and then showed up to our wedding !!---we were doing the extra seating during our ch --FUN ---harass ppl and get answers

julesrbf Posted: Nov 19, 2009 08:32 AM+

julesrbf MEMBER SINCE: 8/08 TOTAL POSTS : 5330 WEDDING DATE: Oct 23, 1995

Posted: Nov 19, 2009 08:32 AM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

We started the week before and by our RSVP date only had single digits outstanding ... and we originally had somewhere around 70-80 outstanding.

Food for thought

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Nov 19, 2009 10:55 AM+

MaggieLuvsJoe MEMBER SINCE: 1/08 TOTAL POSTS : 4833 WEDDING DATE: Jun 28, 2009

Posted: Nov 19, 2009 10:55 AM

Re: late RSVP'ers...when to contact

Honestly, I would not call them the day after esp since its close to Thanksgiving.

Glen Island doesnt want a final headcount (at least when I had to give them the final headcount) until 3 days before the wedding. They are VERY accomodating, they give you up until the very last minute, now I get it that u want to do ur tables and place cards but I would hold off at least a week until after the RSVP date. Don't drive yourself crazy hun