Re: Anyone else have wedding day "issues" they can't get over?

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by GinaZ

Did you ever tell them how it made you feel?

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Well my dad apologized during our father/daughter dance which ****** also cause now all I can think of is my dad apologizing. And I never brought it up to my friends because I felt embarassed enough that they were made to feel like outcasts.

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Re: Anyone else have wedding day "issues" they can't get over?

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Posted by GinaZ

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Posted by Songstress

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Posted by GinaZ

Did you ever tell them how it made you feel?

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Well my dad apologized during our father/daughter dance which ****** also cause now all I can think of is my dad apologizing. And I never brought it up to my friends because I felt embarassed enough that they were made to feel like outcasts.

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ya but it wasn't you who said that too them. So why punish you for it? But I understand it is a touchy subject and not one you want to relive or make them relive by bringing it up. But if you did, Im sure you could say it tactfully. incase it is something erally still bothering you or makes you feel differently about them.

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Posted by mariaobride

I would say a few portrait shots with my MO and DH's Best Man. We do not have any. Also I wanted a few shots with my sisters and brother and the same for d's sisters. It got a little hectic while taking pies that we skipped these shots somehow. I don't publicly advertise it to them because they may feel bad as well.

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Message edited 9/5/2008 4:09:09 PM.

Re: Anyone else have wedding day "issues" they can't get over?

I'm very annoyed that our photographer pulled us outside during the reception for pictures after we had already taken pictures before the wedding. We were away from the party for over a half an hour. I kept telling him I wanted to get back inside but he would say "2 more seconds" or "One more shot". He said the pictures he took before the wedding weren't that good because the sun was too bright. I was very pissed. We purposely took pictures before the ceremony so we could be at the reception for the whole time.

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I wish I had worn a BRA! LOL
I didn't find one that would work well with my dress and my seamtress was supposed to sew cups in....I'm pretty certain they weren't in there. Also the straps weren't tight enough, so they were falling down (so annoying). My BM's had pinned them before the ceremony, but by the reception the pins busted and straps were falling down. I look at pics and feel like my chest was hanging out....luckily I don't have a big bust or there would have been trouble!

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I think mine are minor but they bother me nontheless and I should probably get over it sometime soon....I did a lot of DIY projects but I regret not doing menus bec. everyone's came out so beautifully here and I wanted that extra personal touch (RH puts 2 menus on every table in little stands but it wasn't the same...)...also I wanted to do our engagement photos for our table numbers and I just didn't have time to get that done-we did a photo of a shell instead, still nice but not "perfect." I also regret not having pics taken with my aunts and uncle, and I have no pro pics of the food. I have no idea what some of the stations looked like at CH And lastly, I wanted my cats to be at my wedding but I had no idea how to accomplish that gracefully

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Yes, I am still mad almost a year later how Flower Michele handled my wedding and how they treated me afterwards. They lied and said "a refund of some sort was in the mail".

Never received a thing. I still ***** and moan about that. My DH thinks I should get over it.

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see, everyone has their issues! we will all get over it at some point!

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I agree about not getting all the picutures I would have wanted. i should have made a list like everyone said, but i didnt
I wanted a pic of my flowers with the wedding invitation and i would have liked some pictures of our 2 1/2 year old son by himself and not just group shots
Plus the photographer took like 8 pictures of my friend and her FH and 2 with her family. *** i thought it was my wedding. I found that kind of annoying

i better stop or the crazy bride inside me might return

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my hair is so long it fell out

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I had a couple of zits on my chin and by the end of the day they were sorta dry and were very visible and I just wish that someone had pulled me aside and reapplied!!! At least there's Photoshop to help remedy my acne!

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I'm still bothered, and probably always will be to a degree, about our pictures. I've let it go because our day was wonderful & we have great memories & tons of pictures to remember it by.

The other things I wish had been different don't bother me really, they make me laugh. I had meant to bustle my dress before our first dance, but I forgot. Our dance probably didn't look so good since I was trying not to trip on my train. Also, I was sick the whole week leading up to the wedding & I had no voice on the day of.

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NO - I am over the issues can't get it back. so...Eff it

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I would have a different officiant. We used DH's friend who is a minister. We told him we are not religious and do not want a religious ceremony, just a reading about love or commitment, etc.

So on our wedding day, what does he do, starts telling the story of Adam and Eve. Hey now uncomfortable!
Then, he does our vows, which were just ok, and does not let us say the "I Dos".

All in all, I was very disappointed with the ceremony. I thought having a friend would have made it a more sentimental moment, but a stranger would have listened.

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aww colleen, you did look beautiful and i have to say that we all had an amazing time at your wedding!

Ive seen a lot of girls do a "day after shoot" with out their husbands, would u consider that? I know Brian would be the same way and would never go so i would have to do it myself also if i decided to do it

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I think your hair looked beautiful, but I do not think you are crazy at all. I think we all are the most critical of ourselves, and its not at all uncommon for women to be so upset about something about their appearance that noone else even notices. So you aren't a lunatic!
For your album, if it bothers you, just don't include the side-shot you don't like.
We all had a few things we wish we could re-do. Here are mine. They aren't terrible.
1. I thought there were too many flowers in my hair. Not a big deal, but when i see myself from behind in the video I feel like pulling a couple out.
2. There are a couple of people I barely said hello to at the wedding. I felt terrible about that.
3. There are a few pictures that we missed. I got no family pics with my Aunt and Uncle and cousins who came in from Maryland. I feel terrible that I didn't make that happen. I think they were very insulted. They asked about getting a family shot during the reception, and every time we wanted to do it, someone was missing.
4. DH's best friend made a lonnnnnggggg speech. He wasn't even asked to make one, but he asked he DJ, and the DJ asked and we felt bad saying no. We had not idea it would be 20 minutes long!

Again, not huge major things at all, but if I had a time machine, I would fix them.

You looked beautiful -- make your album!!!

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I think your hair looked beautiful, and would never know anything wasn't the way it was supposed to be. And no, you aren't the only one nor are you crazy. I think it has to do with all the planning and dreaming we all do before the wedding, and when certain things don't come out just right its hard to take. Especially the $$$ involved, or pictures we have/don't have.

For me:
1. The DJ was supposed to play the Hora (a traditional Jewish dance) that wasn't played. Of course I didnt realize it until we got to the hotel and I was furious. But again, what can you do after the fact?

2. I didn't give a must take photo list, and I didnt get table pictures. I 'assumed' the photographer would take them! you know about assuming right...

3. My dress wasn't bustled right and when I see it in the pictures I get so mad.

As time goes by the anger over these issues is fading, as you realize there are more important things in life.

Added: I tremendously regret not having my brother in the wedding party. This really haunts me, and i've addressed it with my brother who is fine about it but I dont think I ever will be. Dh and his brother dont get along, and his brother has major issues, and wasn't even TOLD about the wedding...so i felt bad, that if I had my brother in the wedding it might make DH feel bad his brother isnt involved at all...dh said he didnt care one way or the other. I should have had my brother in the wedding party, no matter what but I guess my judgement was foggy for some strange reason, I thought I would be protecting dh's feelings...

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Posted by dante31300

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Posted by mariaobride

I would say a few portrait shots with my MO and DH's Best Man. We do not have any. Also I wanted a few shots with my sisters and brother and the same for d's sisters. It got a little hectic while taking pies that we skipped these shots somehow. I don't publicly advertise it to them because they may feel bad as well.

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I have the same issue.

Also I would have made sure that I didn't lose anymore weight b/c my dress was falling off and every five minutes I was pulling it up. So...some photos have my bra showing and I think that someone out there may have gotten photos of more than just cleavage Maybe I should have added straps like the Salon told me to.

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i had some similar issues....some of the most amazing photos had to be scrapped.....I wish my dress was not soooo low cut.

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when I look at my pictures I am still annoyed DH forgot his pants...the suit looked nice on him...we had such an informal wedding....and I just feel like it all would have looked more special if he had on a matching suit.

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My photographer.


I think maybe he's blind and perhaps I shouldn't be mad....


He's a family friend...or perhaps I should say was.

I always say you get what you pay for...and this proves it. I got almost nothing

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not much gets me mad. I mean my dress wasnt bustled that great and ill get annoyed for a second but then i say oh well and not really care.

Didnt have things go wrong. I do wish that people didnt stop us and try to talk to us forever. I go to weddings and i tell the couple congratulations, everything looks beautiful, comment on how great she looks, just a few words and let them go back to partying. Some people wanted to have hour conversations with me, like really? do we have to sit here and discuss things or can i go dance at my own wedding i had one girl who kept pulling me off the dance floor to talk to me, even come up to me and dh when we were sitting down and eating, or even talking to others.

But the only issue i do have actually makes me real sad to think about. Dh never took a picture with his grandmother the day , it wasnt our photographers fault but his families fault. AG came up to us during the beginning of the night to take pics of us with our grandmothers. WE go over to where his grandmother was sitting and they had taken her to the bathroom or something i dont even know. AG said she'll come back later to take pics. She did come back and it wasnt that long after our reception started, maybe a bit over an hour and his family told us they took her home nobody even told us, i couldnt believe they wouldnt come and get us to say goodbye to her. SHe is his only living grandparent left, she took care of dh his whole life, was the one who took him to school and picked him up and always watched him and his brother, she means everything to him. Dh started tearing when they told him she left and they couldnt take a picture together. Shes in a hospice right now and not doing well so this is why this annoys me even more now. Since weeks before our wedding his family(not his parents though) didnt even want to bring her to our reception bc nobody wanted to take care of her, and they said they were gonna take her home early and we told them we got a car for her so not to worry but even the car they made come earlier i guess. She had her home care attendant with her at the wedding so not like they had to watch her

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Denise that is terrible that they just took her home like that without telling anyone. It was very inconsiderate of them. Im sorry that happened

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Posted by Songstress

Denise that is terrible that they just took her home like that without telling anyone. It was very inconsiderate of them. Im sorry that happened

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Re: Anyone else have wedding day "issues" they can't get over?

Well quickly b/c I am studying, although I feel I should take enough time to let it out.

1) I lost enough weight to fit into my first gown but did not go down to the weight I wanted.
2) I never tried on my first gown until a yr later (postponed the wedding b/c I started law school) and realized that my hem was the 5"1 just my height so I had to wear 1" heals.
3)I had to change my reception 3 mnths before my wedding date.
4) I picked on my chin b/c I was nervous and left a scab a week before my wedding.
5) I regret picking a few girls on my bridal party- they were so unaware of what was going on, plus they didn't care to help me on my wedding day...they were too busy chatting.
6) the cathedral had scafolds
7) the studio photographer did not take the type of pics I wanted (like my engagement pic which were taken by someone else, who I found after I booked the studio)
8) I should have taken the time to reapply my makeup
9) put a whole can of hairspray so my curls would have stayed.

I may have so so much more things that I WISH would have gone my way....sometimes I wish I could have done things differently...who knows...maybe when we renew our wedding vows? how many years until one should renew their wedding vows? I mean I don't want to be too old.

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I feel your pain...in some of my shots I want to reach in and pull some bobby pins out of my head....what can you do?

I had some issues...but I try not to dwell on them because it is over, and I can't go back.

1. I would have made a must play list for the DJ...I was lazy and too trusting.
2. I would have made sure that the photographer got pics of each table, and followed my must take pic list of some of the family....and also, he didn't get a pic of my DH hugging the best man after the speech, he only go them pulling away.
3. I would have made sure the top layer of cake went home with someone, instead of sitting in someone's car all night.
4. I would have lost more weight before the wedding...I slacked off a lot.
5. I would have gotten video....I regret not having it.
6. I would have had more time to relax before the ceremony...we ran really late....and I didn't even get to sit down and enjoy it.

Oh...and I woudl have eaten something at cocktail hour, and I would have eaten had dinner. I heard rave reviews...but I did not get to enjoy it.