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ajlgmm815
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9/6/2009 5:30 PM
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Mediterranean Manor
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downsizing bridal party
We are having such drama with members of our bridal party. How do we take some out without causing war?
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Posted 8/29/08 12:35 PM 
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VickiR510
256 Invited - Y=59 N= 4
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2/14/2009 2:00 PM
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Re: downsizing bridal party
have you already asked these people to be in it?
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Posted 8/29/08 12:37 PM
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bobchris1023
One Year and counting!!!!!!!
Member since 3/07 1183 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/7/2009 11:00 AM
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Watermill
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Join the club, I have been trying to keep peace with my BM too.
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Posted 8/29/08 12:42 PM
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Espo22
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Jericho Terrace
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Re: downsizing bridal party
i dont know but personally i believe that once you ask somebody to be in your bp you shouldn't kick them out. Unless they do something real bad and they seem to not want to be part of it. But otherwise its hard, and remember that after your wedding you will still want to remain friends with them so dont strain relationships now. Kicking people out of a bp can cause alot of problems.
Good luck
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Posted 8/29/08 12:45 PM
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ajlgmm815
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Member since 4/08 196 total posts
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9/6/2009 5:30 PM
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Mediterranean Manor
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Re: downsizing bridal party
We have already asked the people. but two of them we have not heard from in 8 months and another in 4 months we have tried every outlet together. I feel like they dont want to be a part of it they just feel akward about telling us. One of the GM didnt even remember our wedding date!!
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Posted 8/29/08 12:56 PM
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MEMEJOR
Ms Silverman if ur nasty
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Wedding Date:
2/14/2009 7:00 PM
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Tribeca Roof top
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Posted by ajlgmm815
We have already asked the people. but two of them we have not heard from in 8 months and another in 4 months we have tried every outlet together. I feel like they dont want to be a part of it they just feel akward about telling us. One of the GM didnt even remember our wedding date!!
wow really.... well if they have not contacted you in 8 months i would say yeah they arent in it anymore...
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Posted 8/29/08 1:15 PM
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evewedsjc
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Member since 3/08 2270 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/22/2009 12:00 AM
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Old Field Club- Martha Would Approve
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Posted by ajlgmm815
We have already asked the people. but two of them we have not heard from in 8 months and another in 4 months we have tried every outlet together. I feel like they dont want to be a part of it they just feel akward about telling us. One of the GM didnt even remember our wedding date!!
once you ask someone..it's always hard and starts war but the sooner you do it the better...you feel way better.
i did it and it s u c k e d but it had to be done...
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Posted 8/29/08 1:22 PM
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flairforfashion
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4/24/2009 12:00 AM
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North Ritz Club
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Posted by Espo22
i dont know but personally i believe that once you ask somebody to be in your bp you shouldn't kick them out. Unless they do something real bad and they seem to not want to be part of it. But otherwise its hard, and remember that after your wedding you will still want to remain friends with them so dont strain relationships now. Kicking people out of a bp can cause alot of problems.
Good luck
I was going to say the same.
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Posted 8/29/08 1:30 PM
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MaureenM618
Invitations done!
Member since 7/06 3693 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/24/2009 6:00 PM
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Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: downsizing bridal party
I agree...if you already asked them I think it can lead to some hurt feelings to "downsize" unless they are causing you major grief....Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
But.....if they are really causing problems and not really trying to help you or be a part of your day you should have a serious talk with them and tell them how you feel. If it doesn't work then kick their booties out! But be aware this might ruin or cause strain on your future friendship with them.
Message edited 8/29/2008 1:38:50 PM.
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Posted 8/29/08 1:36 PM
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KellymKuehn
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7/12/2009 11:30 AM
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Re: downsizing bridal party
That is a really tough call. But def the sooner the better. Just have your reasons ready because I am sure even if they are legitamate reasons the person will not be very understanding about it.
Good luck !
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Posted 8/29/08 1:58 PM
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angels914
Future Mrs. Spy
Member since 8/08 1557 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/8/2009 11:00 AM
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Majestic Gardens
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Re: downsizing bridal party
That is so hard !!!!!!!!! But if you both feel that this is what needs to be done... sooner the better ! GOOD LUCK !!!!!
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Posted 8/29/08 2:01 PM
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littlepixie12
I love Edward Cullen!!
Member since 2/08 3988 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/3/2009 6:30 PM
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Leonard's of Great Neck
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Re: downsizing bridal party
hmm ... did you ask them already? if they are causing drama it shouldnt be a surprise to them to be asked out. but blame it on finances
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Posted 8/29/08 2:13 PM
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cherish83
214 Invited; Y:148 N:66
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11/29/2008 2:00 PM
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CLM
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Okay.. i have had ISSUES with some of my girls...
I had three of my female cousins in the BP and one male cousins (their brother) as a GM... The two families have been fighting since November. I tried to reconcile with them.. but they never let up.... and it got really nasty.. So I kicked them out.. I haven't spoken to them since. It stinks because they are family, but in my mind I did all i can to not only keep them in it but as part of the family..
On the other hand.. I have a BM who has been really flaky for over a year. I've heard from other BMs that she hasnt contacted them about the bridal shower (this was a month ago). If I had to choose now, I wouldnt have her in it. But like ESPO said, i dont want to strain the relationship, so I keep shut
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Posted 8/29/08 2:23 PM
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DonnaPWhite1124
Been known to fry a panel or 2
Member since 5/07 2580 total posts
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10/3/2009 3:00 PM
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Re: downsizing bridal party
easy just dont speak with them
Thats what i did =)
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Posted 8/29/08 2:45 PM
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DonnaPWhite1124
Been known to fry a panel or 2
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10/3/2009 3:00 PM
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Posted by DonnaPWhite1124
easy just dont speak with them
Thats what i did =)
might i just add...i had a weird situation. Dont want you guys to think im a raving Biotch. But this is just how I do it.
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Posted 8/29/08 2:47 PM
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tammi2308
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Re: downsizing bridal party
hmmmm....that's a tough situation and I would say just keep your bp how it is bc you already asked them. However, what you mentioned about the two that you haven't heard from in 8 months....that's no good. That's clearly, "actions speak louder than words", unless there's a really really really good reason why there has been no communication with them. I would start by calling them up to see where you both stand....good luck..
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Posted 8/29/08 3:11 PM
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Brendanzgirl
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Re: downsizing bridal party
Posted by ajlgmm815
We have already asked the people. but two of them we have not heard from in 8 months and another in 4 months we have tried every outlet together. I feel like they dont want to be a part of it they just feel akward about telling us. One of the GM didnt even remember our wedding date!!
So how long before the wedding did you actually ask them?
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Posted 8/29/08 3:17 PM
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