Anyone inviting or did invite any ex's to the wedding?

I didn't because i never remained friends with any, I was alwasy the one who ended it and it was for a reason so I never felt the need...may be harsh but it is how I feel. FH on the other is a different story. We invited one of his, but is also a close family friend of his that he grew up with, they were high school sweethearts I guess you could say and dated for 7 years...I have met her a bunch of times and she is a great girl. We invited her and her boyfriend to the party and I am starting to think is it going to be wierd? or will FH feel wierd about it?? Or am I just thinking way to much??!

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if it's been a really long time and she's friends with the family i wouldn't worry! high school is long gone! Either way...the only person he'll be looking at or thinking about it YOU!

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My exhusband and his girlfriend were there and my videographer was an ex boyfriend. IT shouldnt be wierd. He loves you !!

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Don't let it get to you. You already invited her so you can't change things. I think it's nice that he and his ex are in good terms. It shows how mature your FH is!

Message edited 8/28/2008 10:14:42 AM.

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Posted by kellybean

My exhusband and his girlfriend were there and my videographer was an ex boyfriend. IT shouldnt be wierd. He loves you !!

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I had an ex there that is a close family friend.. No problem at all, he's marrying YOU that day

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none of my ex's will be there, however both of his Sister-in-laws will be there since we remained close.

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No ex's at our wedding.

I doubt you or your FH will feel strange.... it's not like youll be hanging out with them all night... you'll be too busy saying hi to everyone else there and hanging out with your friends all night.

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for us personally---nope ---no ex's.

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I did and it was absolutely fine...dont worry about it although i do get how youre feeling! i bet that day you won't even think about it because you'll be so happy!

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One of mine will be but its from like 10th grade and he is a very close friend of mine and Fh. He is actually how I met FH.

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neither of us are really close with any of our exs.... i talk to some of them online, but other than that, noppers.

But i do not think it will be werid at all.

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For us No. But sounds to me like your situation isn't so abnormal -- sounds like your brain might really be in overdrive.

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No, but my ex's mom came to our mass and said she wished I had invited her to the wedding.

I am friendly with both my exes as in, no hard feelings, but it wasn't appropriate (in my case) to invite them - DH isn't friendly with them obviously.

PLUS - I was romantic and intimate with them - I didn't need myself nor DH to be reminded of that on our wedding day.

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Posted by emomma17
We invited her and her boyfriend to the party and I am starting to think is it going to be wierd? or will FH feel wierd about it?? Or am I just thinking way to much??!

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Posted by emomma17

I didn't because i never remained friends with any, I was alwasy the one who ended it and it was for a reason so I never felt the need...may be harsh but it is how I feel. FH on the other is a different story. We invited one of his, but is also a close family friend of his that he grew up with, they were high school sweethearts I guess you could say and dated for 7 years...I have met her a bunch of times and she is a great girl. We invited her and her boyfriend to the party and I am starting to think is it going to be wierd? or will FH feel wierd about it?? Or am I just thinking way to much??!

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Posted by emomma17

I didn't because i never remained friends with any, I was alwasy the one who ended it and it was for a reason so I never felt the need...may be harsh but it is how I feel. FH on the other is a different story. We invited one of his, but is also a close family friend of his that he grew up with, they were high school sweethearts I guess you could say and dated for 7 years...I have met her a bunch of times and she is a great girl. We invited her and her boyfriend to the party and I am starting to think is it going to be wierd? or will FH feel wierd about it?? Or am I just thinking way to much??!

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we invited my FH ex-girlfriend from highschool, i never felt a threat it was over sooooooo long agao and she is soooo nice to me and thinks we are so good together!! although my FH-ex (the mother of his daughter) was so threatened by her, it was rediculous!!!
i think you are thinking too much, he's marrying you, silly!!! don't sweat it!

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No of our ex's are invited but, then again I have never been in a 7 year relationship. FH has but, it just ran it's course and she moved away and they don't keep in touch. I think it's very big of you to be acceptable of that and therfore, I wouldn't worry about it feeling weird. I find that the closer the wedding gets, the more thinking I'm doing and half of it is nonsense. I think it's just part of the process! You are going to be so over the place the day of wedding you probably won't even know she's there (harsh but true)

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i don't have that problem...whew! but, my FSIL's ex-fiance is invited to the wedding b/c FH and FFIL are both still friendly with him...but, my FMIL and FSIL are now freaking out about where to seat him b/c he's single and she's already remarried!!! i keep assuring them both that they probably won't even realize he's there... there's going to be so much else going on! but yeah, there will be one "ex" there..lol

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I dont think he would have let you invite her if he thought it would be weird. I also don think she would come if she thought it would be weird. We didn't invite any ex's because we are not friends with any of them. But I think this always depends on the situation!

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FH never had a serious GF other than me lol so no ex's...and I dont have any I am still friends with so no

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nope, I have guests who will have exes there though - I sat them on opposite sides of the room.

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We are inviting my ex, who is also my business partner. FH jokes about "misplacing his invite' but he knows he is the only one I want! lol.

we did our pre-nupital investigation yesterday and both of us were shocked when we thought about that neither one of us have ever had a jealous moment with each other. We talked about it the whole way home. I was actually searching for a time I was jealous with FH and I couldn't find one!

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It is already done, forgot about it. You will barely notice she is there. It was a nice gesture. FH stayed friends with one of his ex's that he lived with for 3 years but lost contact with her a yr or two ago, otherwise I would have said to invite her. My ex-husband would never go nor would I want him there, it is ugly between us. I was married to him 15 years ago today, so I don't really have any other recent ex's nor does FH. My mom's ex is coming though although she has been re married to her husband, my stepdad, for 20 yrs almost and both will be there.

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I did invite the one and only ex that I eventually (many, many years later) became friends with. As of now, he is still trying to get the time off from work to come.

It took a long time but FH finally got over the fact that I have a past and that I still speak with one ex.