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Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

EsquireBride Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:56 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:56 PM

Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

I was at a wedding a few weeks ago for a friend and I had to order the meal in advance. I chose the beef dish. When they delivered the food, my 'beef' dish was actually some weird pressed steak with some weird stuff inside that didn't look right.... I conferred with others at my table, most of whom ordered fish or chicken, and everyone agreed that I should absolutely not eat it.

So I called the waiter back over and told him something was wrong with my food. He started to get all testy, telling me this is how the food was supposed to look, and I just asked if I could please have a different dish. He then told me I had to wait until everyone else was served and if they had anything leftover they would give me that! FH cut off some of his chicken and potatoes and put it ona bread plate because I was starving, and finally about 20 minutes later the waiver brought me over some fish.

I have no idea if the bride and groom were charged for my extra meal, and I felt bad because I felt like this was something you should never do at a wedding -- but the meat looked horrible and I wasn't going to eat something that gross looking!

Opinions? What would you do if someone at your wedding returned the food?

EDITED: Oh, and the RH was across the country so it doesn't matter for us!

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:58 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:58 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

you did nothing wrong. If it was my wedding and that happened I would have wanted you to order something else so that you could eat. Thats JMO, I'm not sure if the RH would charge for that, I don't think they should and I doubt a reputable place would.

mdawg Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:58 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 06:58 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

i dont think they were charged... he said if there were extras hed bring it to you so they were making it anyway, ya know?

i think what you did is alright... you didnt make a huge deal about it...you didnt tell the bride and groom themselves... i think its okay.

if i saw something i was uncomfortable eating i definitely wouldnt eat it either.

dont beat yourself up over it.

Fall BZ 2009 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:08 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:08 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

I personally don't think you did anything wrong

FutureMrsG Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:36 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 07:36 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

You did not do anything wrong. If someone returned their food at my wedding I would make sure that they were given an alternative dish- I would never want my guests to eat something that looked bad. I might be really embarassed if the food looked like you described.

dazies1011 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:20 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:20 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

I dont think you did anyting wrong

BarbieGrl10 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:24 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:24 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

No Way! You did nothing wrong. If you were a guest at my wedding I would NEVER want you to eat something that you didnt want.

tye85 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:27 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:27 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

eh i wouldnt eat it either, and im sure the bride and the groom did not want to leave you hungry. so i think it is ok

Autumnbride03 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:42 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:42 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

out of curiosity what RH was it?

Im a Pepper Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:51 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:51 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

i would say there's nothing wrong with that! who would expect anyone at any function to eat 'mystery meat'?? you did the right thing!

HM807 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:51 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 08:51 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

Posted by Autumnbride03

out of curiosity what RH was it?

Thats what i was gonna ask!

Firkx3 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 09:35 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 09:35 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

You were 100% correct in the way you handled it. You didn't cause a scene, just told the waiter. That is not a problem at all.

Now, I'm curious too....can you tell us what RH?

anKrazy516 Posted: Jun 17, 2008 10:15 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 10:15 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

You did nothing wrong. I would have done the same thing.

PROBM Posted: Jun 17, 2008 10:18 PM+

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Posted: Jun 17, 2008 10:18 PM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

Posted by anKrazy516

You did nothing wrong. I would have done the same thing.

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Sweeteey51 Posted: Jun 18, 2008 02:29 AM+

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Posted: Jun 18, 2008 02:29 AM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

Sounds like you did the right thing, i doubt they were charged for it because it was probably someones plate that didnt show up. I wouldve done the same.

MrsDtoBe09 Posted: Jun 18, 2008 07:35 AM+

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Posted: Jun 18, 2008 07:35 AM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

I dont think you commited a wedding sin or that they had to pay for an extra meal. Better you enjoy your food then potentially talk bad about the place and how yucky the food was!

VickiR510 Posted: Jun 18, 2008 08:27 AM+

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Posted: Jun 18, 2008 08:27 AM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

If i found out i would have a very long talk with my BM! I wouldnt be happy with them for serving food that was terrible looking. I wouldnt mind my guest returning a plate. i just would definitely want to know about it so i can handle it accordingly!

flairforfashion Posted: Jun 18, 2008 09:44 AM+

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Posted: Jun 18, 2008 09:44 AM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

I don't think you did anything wrong. Why should you be forced to eat something weird looking?

vicky1125 Posted: Jun 18, 2008 09:48 AM+

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Posted: Jun 18, 2008 09:48 AM

Re: Did I commit a wedding sin? long sorry

if someone wasn't satisfied at my wedding i would want them to order something else. i wouldn't want any guest leaving hungry so i wouldn't mind at all. i don't think you did anything wrong.

EsquireBride Posted: Jun 18, 2008 10:21 AM+

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Posted: Jun 18, 2008 10:21 AM