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tunagrande Posted: Jun 05, 2008 06:27 PM+

tunagrande MEMBER SINCE: 6/08 TOTAL POSTS : 8 WEDDING DATE: Nov 19, 2008

Posted: Jun 05, 2008 06:27 PM

Anxious Brides

How do you deal with an anxious bride?

Ordinarily it's the other way around and the guy is more nervous about 'losing his freedom' but in my case I think I'm a lot calmer about the situation than she is.

In her spare time now she thinks up situations wherein we would need a divorce. Now THAT'S positive thinking!

Any tips?

tunagrande Posted: Jun 06, 2008 02:56 PM+

tunagrande MEMBER SINCE: 6/08 TOTAL POSTS : 8 WEDDING DATE: Nov 19, 2008

Posted: Jun 06, 2008 02:56 PM

Re: Anxious Brides

ok...

Val Posted: Jul 20, 2008 11:06 PM+

Val MEMBER SINCE: 1/06 TOTAL POSTS : 665 WEDDING DATE: Jun 29, 2007

Posted: Jul 20, 2008 11:06 PM

Re: Anxious Brides

tell her to relax herself. DO NOT let her have time to think. Let her plan things to keep her occupied. Calm her by telling her what my hubby told me (not that I worried) 'As long as you don't try to kill me, everything will work itself out.'

Once that was established we were fine.

joesephsgirl Posted: Jul 23, 2008 05:11 PM+

joesephsgirl MEMBER SINCE: 7/08 TOTAL POSTS : 10 WEDDING DATE: Oct 18, 2008

Posted: Jul 23, 2008 05:11 PM

Re: Anxious Brides

Oh my god! I need to know about her! I am so anxious it is not funny! I am totally freaking out and everyone thinks I'm crazy. Its not that I don't want to be married its just that I am very aware of how its serious you know? Its more than picking a dj and a dress! It's the person you spend the rest of your life with! When I feel overwhelmed by it I actually watch those wedding shows. For some reason watching other people's ceremony and seeing how in love they are in that moment makes me calm. Good luck! I think its no big deal!

MyLobster Posted: Jul 23, 2008 06:42 PM+

MyLobster MEMBER SINCE: 2/07 TOTAL POSTS : 3100 WEDDING DATE: Nov 22, 2008

Posted: Jul 23, 2008 06:42 PM

Re: Anxious Brides

Women tend to over analyze and think WAY too much. Though we think of all of these senarios, it doesn't mean she is having second thoughts about marrying YOU. It's only smart to accept the fact that things don't always go as planned and with divorce rates today, it's hard not to think of the 'what ifs'. HOWEVER...if this is taking a toll on your everyday life, then I would say to talk to her and stop worrying about what MIGHT happen and enjoy what she has now and tell her that it really upsets you to hear her speaking so negatively about your marriage

Good luck!

grrulz Posted: Sep 28, 2008 04:47 PM+

grrulz MEMBER SINCE: 8/08 TOTAL POSTS : 9226 WEDDING DATE: Apr 30, 2010

Posted: Sep 28, 2008 04:47 PM

Re: Anxious Brides

i haven't gone to this point yet but when FH proposed i felt like soo nervous maybe is not the same feeling but I could tell you something you need to relax, try going to get a massage or to a spa or something it relaxes you trust me it's a great therapy