How do you divide holiday time between you and FH family?

How do you divide Holiday time between you and FHs family? Do any of you have divorced parents so there are even more different places you have to visit?

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we do most of the main holidays with my family. We really dont do much with his.its only his mom and dad and his mom isnt big on cooking big meals these days anyways.

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Today, we're eating dinner at FH's and then having dessert at my house. For Thanksgiving, we did the opposite (had dinner at my house and dessert at FH's). For Christmas Eve it was easy - my family has it early and his has it late, so we were able to be at both. Christmas Day we had dinner at FH's and dessert at my house.

It's easy for us because we live 15 minutes away from each other, so we can split our time easily. We try to have dinner/dessert equally at our houses.

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xmas is easy. they have a big dinner the eve and we have it on the day.

the other holidays we used to take turns like thanksgiving this year at mine next year at his. but now for the most part will just eat at our own and then one will go to the others for dessert or soemthing.

Its hard b/c now my bro has a gf so he flip flops too. and FH has holidays with his aunt and uncle and cousins. my house is just mom dad sis and bro (if hes not at GF's) so i feel bad leaving my family alone.

it works out fine though.

hopefully when we get married we can do holidays together. we'll see

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FH's family invited my family to Thanksgiving dinner. For Chanukah and Passover, we spent one night with each of our families.

Holidays are about to get very tricky though. FH's parents are moving to Arizona. At that point, we'll probably spend more holidays with my family.

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We try to split by the night before and the day of. So it works out pretty evenly.

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Posted by Munchkn16


Holidays are about to get very tricky though. FH's parents are moving to Arizona. At that point, we'll probably spend more holidays with my family.

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haha to me.. that makes it easier.. haha

just sad that you wont see them too much (if you get along well)

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Well for this easter what we did was go to church on friday with his family, his mother is in the choir at church, then after we all went out to eat.

And today we are having easter with my family. But i feel bad bc his dad works today and his mom did easter dinner at home yesterday but FH had made plans for us to go meet up with his friends so we went out last night with friends.

Normally easter is the easiest for us bc im christian orthodox and its rarely at the same time, usually its a week or two after, this happens once in a blue moon when its at the same time

For other holidays: christmas we spent x-mas eve with his family, and christmas day with mine...this was hard bc both of our families celebrate both days but they were understanding.

Thanksgiving his family goes upstate to his aunts house, well i work the day after so we do it at my house

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we split the day usually...or on christmas i saw his family christmas eve, my family christmas day

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FH is Jewish, and im Catholic so we dont celebrate the same holidays, but my parents are divorced. so that gets tricky, being italian we always do holidays early, and his family does things later

Thanksgiving, Morning breakfast with my mom, then early dinner at my uncles in CT with my dad.
Then a late dinner back in Merrick at FH's parents house.
Alot of driving but worth it

That is the only holiday we split

I always celebrate my b-day with my dad, my sister celebrates hers with my mom...weird huh

Mothers day, i go with FH to brunch then dinner with FH's mom.

Fathers Day the same, we split the day up so FH and I are never doing things separate

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we try to alternate for most holidays.... so one year we'll do thanksgiving with my family, and the next with his family..

christmas time is the easiest for us.... because his family does a big christmas eve celebration, and mine does christmas day.

we pretty much switch off for every other holiday, and it's worked out fine for us...

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Easy - Im Jewish - He's Catholic so all the Jewish holidays are at my family's house (either parents , sister or aunt and uncle)

all of the christian holidays are with his family

Thanksgiving we do early with my parents, late with his family

New Year's Eve same thing - early dinner (around 4) with my family and late dinner / party with his

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we split everything so for this year we will do:
Easter at my house - dessert at his brother's

Thanksgiving at his house, dessert at mine

Christmas Eve at his house
Christmas Day at mine - we have to change this up though bc my ENTIRE family stays home on Christmas Eve and then spends Christmas day with their spouse's families. . . so CHristmas Day stinks for us - it is just us and the old people, lol
BUT his family does nothing for Christmas day - so we have no idea how to split it up!

for my last holidays as a single woman i am being a bit of a brat and i refuse to leave my house early and I may even stay home for some holidays and let him stay at his house. . . I have been crying all day and I have no idea why, I mean we are living upstairs from my parents but I feel like these are my last holidays ever - like i am sentenced to the death penalty instead of getting married. it is a wierd feeling.

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Posted by ant n tilde

we split everything so for this year we will do:
Easter at my house - dessert at his brother's

Thanksgiving at his house, dessert at mine

Christmas Eve at his house
Christmas Day at mine - we have to change this up though bc my ENTIRE family stays home on Christmas Eve and then spends Christmas day with their spouse's families. . . so CHristmas Day stinks for us - it is just us and the old people, lol
BUT his family does nothing for Christmas day - so we have no idea how to split it up!

for my last holidays as a single woman i am being a bit of a brat and i refuse to leave my house early and I may even stay home for some holidays and let him stay at his house. . . I have been crying all day and I have no idea why, I mean we are living upstairs from my parents but I feel like these are my last holidays ever - like i am sentenced to the death penalty instead of getting married. it is a wierd feeling.

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awww I know how you feel, i feel like that all the time with my parents...Of course i am happy to get married but at the same time its sad leaving them. I think this is normal, well at least i hope it is lol. You kinda get used to things and its sad to know that although you will still spend holidays with family its a bit different.

I am used to waking up mornings and my mom already having started from early and the routine we have.

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Well, this year was the first year I got slack from his family, because we are engaged. We always went our separate way son holidays, unless he had nothing happening on his side. On Christmas Eve, we went to my sisters, and on Christmas I went to my dads. I was suppossed to go for dessert with my FH at his mother's house, (which she only called him about 2 days before), but I didn't realize at the time that my dad's dinner was going to be late (we didn't eat until 5:30), so I missed dessert with his mother's family. His mom was very po'ed, to say the least. She has hardly shown any interest in me for the last 5 years, and now that I have her stone in my engagement ring, she wants me around all the time!! So....this easter I made sure to see what his family is doing before I made easter plans. It turns out they weren't doing anything, so we are hanging with my family.

I also have divorced parents, so it makes it that much more difficult splitting holidays, because I don't want to leave my mom alone. It is sooo complicated!!!

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does anyone else....... end up eating dinner 2x because you are splitting your time?

I think that is what is going to happen today. i just finished dinner.. (Its Easter, we are Italian, andits Sunday so EARLY dinner! haha) and getting ready to go to FH's.. i will TRY (haha) not to eat that much

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Well FH parents do a huge dinner with family on Christmas eve, then I come to NY for Christmas. We have not really spoken about about other holidays

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We split it evenly. One family we'll visit during the day..the other at night. Or one family will get the holiday eve and the other the actual day. It's not too bad because his family is in Queens and mine is in NJ..