am i being a bridezilla for telling my sister she can't bring her month old baby to my shower???

my sister is obsessed with her unborn kid, i mean to the point where we cant have a conversation w/o her mentioning him, its really annoying.
thanks to her i know when my shower is!! she asked me yesterday if babies were allowed at my shower and i said no. so since my wedding is in august and shes due in june, my shower has to be in july!!
shes due in june and i know my shower is sometime in july so said no don't want him there for a few reasons:
1) it would be the first time a lot of my family members will be seeing him.
2) my sister is a bm she needs to be helping them set up and do things for the shower
3) he'll only be 1 month old and babies that age are too unpredictable.

Re: am i being a bridezilla for telling my sister she can't bring her month old baby to my shower???

I have to agree with you - First a baby that is only one month does not need to be around that many people. I thought doctors recommend to keep babies inside (except for doctor's appointments) and around very few people at that age.

And besides that - the baby may take away from your day - Try to talk to your sister and voice your opinion. And if she is a BM does she really want to deal with helping out with the shower and caring for a 1 month old.

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Posted by MrsB2BE

I have to agree with you - First a baby that is only one month does not need to be around that many people. I thought doctors recommend to keep babies inside (except for doctor's appointments) and around very few people at that age.

And besides that - the baby may take away from your day - Try to talk to your sister and voice your opinion. And if she is a BM does she really want to deal with helping out with the shower and caring for a 1 month old.

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i think she could care less about my shower and helping out, and she'd rather be showing her kid off to the family at MY shower.

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I dont think it is a good idea. He will only be a month old and I doubt when the time comes she will really want to bring him there. I think she has other obligations to you and really shouldnt take the focus away from you. I have to agree with you on this one. What does your mom have to say about the whole thing? Could your sister be jealous of the attention that you are getting for your wedding/shower? It makes no sense to me why she would even think to bring him.

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I hate to be REAL but the baby will totally take away from your day. And I agree with an above poster, a one month old has no business being around that many people! They have barley any immunities yet. Tell your sister it is not worth bringing the baby due to this reason, but tell her to bring a bunch of pics! Hope this goes over well with her!

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Personally I can see why she wouldn't really want to leave him but I don't think I'd want to take a 1 month old out to be around lots of people though. Can her husband watch the baby because I do doubt she'd be able to participate much unless the baby was sleeping the entire time.

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I don't think its a good idea at all for ANY child to be at a bridal shower. This is your day and for you to shine and be surrounded by the ones who love you and for you to enjoy it. I wouldn't want that day regardless of who it is to take it away from me. You need to explain this to your sister or even your mom.

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sorry for crashing...but she sounds like my sister
my sister is due in june, and she is annoyed im having my e-party in July. I told her she can bring her baby, it will be about 3 weeks old

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

sorry for crashing...but she sounds like my sister
my sister is due in june, and she is annoyed im having my e-party in July. I told her she can bring her baby, it will be about 3 weeks old

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so then u know exactly what i'm talking about!!! its like theres nothing else going in teh world except her pregnancy!!!

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Posted by afrodyt2000

Personally I can see why she wouldn't really want to leave him but I don't think I'd want to take a 1 month old out to be around lots of people though. Can her husband watch the baby because I do doubt she'd be able to participate much unless the baby was sleeping the entire time.

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and yes her husband can watch the baby!!

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Posted by diva7531

I hate to be REAL but the baby will totally take away from your day. And I agree with an above poster, a one month old has no business being around that many people! They have barley any immunities yet. Tell your sister it is not worth bringing the baby due to this reason, but tell her to bring a bunch of pics! Hope this goes over well with her!

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so do u think i should tell her he can't come to wedding? she said shes only going to bring him to the ceremony. her husband's not in the BP so he can just sit in the back of the church with him, then after the ceremony his mom is going to babysit the kid at their apt.

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I don't think he should be at the wedding either! Babies cry! lol seriously I want no crying babies on my wedding video. Yes you can take them outside if you're near the exit (I've done that with babies at church before) but it can be destracting at your wedding. If they have someone to watch him already, why not just have her watch him the whole time.

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Posted by afrodyt2000

I don't think he should be at the wedding either! Babies cry! lol seriously I want no crying babies on my wedding video. Yes you can take them outside if you're near the exit (I've done that with babies at church before) but it can be destracting at your wedding. If they have someone to watch him already, why not just have her watch him the whole time.

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that was my original thought, but shes like i really want him there, and basically begged me. and btw shes breast feeding. i understand they do need to be fed every few hours, but hello u registerd for a $400 breast pump, why not make use of it?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

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I'm going to play devils advocate. My sister just recently had a baby and I understand how you are feeling. I totally thought the baby would take away from my wedding stuff. If your shower is in July and your sister has a 1 month old, I'm sorry to say but that baby really shouldn't be separated from its mother that long. First of all is she breast feeding? If so the babye needs to be with mom even if she's pumping babies don't always take bottles, secondly who would watch the baby if she came to your shower? Honestly most men can't take care of a newborn all by them selves for more than an hour. As for family and friends seeing the baby for the first time, Yeah they will go and look at the baby and say how cute and congrats, but the reason they are there is for your shower and you will get their attention. If you decide that you defenitely don't want your niece or nephew at the shower that is fine, it's your decision, but you will be putting your sister in a tough situation and I'm sorry to say but most likely her newborn will come first and then your stuck with not having your sister at your shower.

The situations stinks, I know, I've dealt with it first hand, but to me it was more important that my sister be present for wedding events even if it meant my baby nephew was tagging along.

Good luck!



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Posted by FullersBride

I'm going to play devils advocate. My sister just recently had a baby and I understand how you are feeling. I totally thought the baby would take away from my wedding stuff. If your shower is in July and your sister has a 1 month old, I'm sorry to say but that baby really shouldn't be separated from its mother that long. First of all is she breast feeding? If so the babye needs to be with mom even if she's pumping babies don't always take bottles, secondly who would watch the baby if she came to your shower? Honestly most men can't take care of a newborn all by them selves for more than an hour. As for family and friends seeing the baby for the first time, Yeah they will go and look at the baby and say how cute and congrats, but the reason they are there is for your shower and you will get their attention. If you decide that you defenitely don't want your niece or nephew at the shower that is fine, it's your decision, but you will be putting your sister in a tough situation and I'm sorry to say but most likely her newborn will come first and then your stuck with not having your sister at your shower.

The situations stinks, I know, I've dealt with it first hand, but to me it was more important that my sister be present for wedding events even if it meant my baby nephew was tagging along.

Good luck!



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is ur sister brining her kid to ur wedding?

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Posted by tricia3381

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

sorry for crashing...but she sounds like my sister
my sister is due in june, and she is annoyed im having my e-party in July. I told her she can bring her baby, it will be about 3 weeks old

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so then u know exactly what i'm talking about!!! its like theres nothing else going in teh world except her pregnancy!!!

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What is your sister doing for your wedding, is she bringing the baby...i agree its not fair its your day and its your shower. I think everyone will be making more of a fuss over the new baby then the fact that your getting married.

My sister is my MOH and she has done nothing to help me or even contribute, i made her wedding invites, assembled them, i made her shower invites, been keeping track of whos coming, paying for 1/3 of it as well.

she wont even come look at dresses with me

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I agree that babies dont belong at bridal showers or weddings. It's the brides day not the mother of the baby's day to show off her newborn. Your sister should respect your wishes since it's your day!

My sister just had a baby this week. She already knows the baby wont be attending the wedding and she is completely fine with it.

Good luck!

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Posted by tricia3381

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Posted by FullersBride

I'm going to play devils advocate. My sister just recently had a baby and I understand how you are feeling. I totally thought the baby would take away from my wedding stuff. If your shower is in July and your sister has a 1 month old, I'm sorry to say but that baby really shouldn't be separated from its mother that long. First of all is she breast feeding? If so the babye needs to be with mom even if she's pumping babies don't always take bottles, secondly who would watch the baby if she came to your shower? Honestly most men can't take care of a newborn all by them selves for more than an hour. As for family and friends seeing the baby for the first time, Yeah they will go and look at the baby and say how cute and congrats, but the reason they are there is for your shower and you will get their attention. If you decide that you defenitely don't want your niece or nephew at the shower that is fine, it's your decision, but you will be putting your sister in a tough situation and I'm sorry to say but most likely her newborn will come first and then your stuck with not having your sister at your shower.

The situations stinks, I know, I've dealt with it first hand, but to me it was more important that my sister be present for wedding events even if it meant my baby nephew was tagging along.

Good luck!



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is ur sister brining her kid to ur wedding?

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Yup, He will be there for the ceremony and then a family friend will be watching him for the reception. he will be 8 months old.

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by tricia3381

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

sorry for crashing...but she sounds like my sister
my sister is due in june, and she is annoyed im having my e-party in July. I told her she can bring her baby, it will be about 3 weeks old

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so then u know exactly what i'm talking about!!! its like theres nothing else going in teh world except her pregnancy!!!

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What is your sister doing for your wedding, is she bringing the baby...i agree its not fair its your day and its your shower. I think everyone will be making more of a fuss over the new baby then the fact that your getting married.

My sister is my MOH and she has done nothing to help me or even contribute, i made her wedding invites, assembled them, i made her shower invites, been keeping track of whos coming, paying for 1/3 of it as well.

she wont even come look at dresses with me

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OMG!!! i think we have the same sister, although i think i have one up on ya- my sister decided that when she prego that she could no longer fulfill her MOH duties (not as thuogh she was doing anything for me prior to being prego) and steped down. so now shes just a BM (unwillingly.)
my sister has done nothing with me as far as wedding stuff is concerned. mine even had DW i went to the bahamas for it. she paid for nothing for me. she barely even thanked me.

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see i would be more annoyed at having a small baby at teh ceremony. I would be very pissed if the kid started crying during my vows, and peoples attention was turned to the babies crying and not paying attention to what me and FH were saying to eachother