Asking the Wedding Party

Hey Girls,

What do you think is the best way going about asking the girls to be in the party? I was thinking at the engagement party, doing a little announcment or something?

What does everyone think?

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You could do it whatever way you want. I know a lot of brides like to try and ask each girl individually to make it something memorable with each one.

I've asked three of the 6 girls in my bridal party so far. The first was my sister which I didn't really ask I just kinda assumed she was going to be my MOH and I would be hers since it's what we always talked about!

The other two were my two best friends and me and my FH took them out to dinner and I gave them each little scrapbooks and a card with a really long letter in it specific to my friendship with each of them. They really appreciated it and I was glad I could do something to show them just how special they are to me.

Don't know what I'm going to do for the other 3 just yet since two are FH's cousins and the third is my cousin but I don't know if I'm going to ask her yet.

Another thing is that you don't have to ask all at the same time and you definitely shouldn't ask until you are absolutely sure!

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i would wait until i found a special way to ask them!

I asked my MOH and my BM the night I got engaged bc I was so excited. . . and now i am hearing of all these little things to ask. . .i wish i had made it more special for them but i just couldnt WAIT!

I am a BM in my best friends wedding and she made me a cute little photo album with an old picture of us and then a picture of us on the day she got engaged ( which happened to be the day BEFORE i got engaged!!!!!!) and she wrote me a cute little poem asking me to be her BM. . . i love it and i will have it forever!

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3 out of the 6 know. But I'm asking the other 3 at the Engagement Party. I made them each a card. On the cover is a picture of the 2 of us when we were younger and then i put a poem in the middle. I bought pink tumbler cups at Target and I am going to Michaels to see if there is something i can use to put Bridesmaid on the cups. I also bought pink and white M&Ms that i am going to put in the cup along with any other pink or white candies i can find

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see, that is what I wanted to do. Something special.... a little gift or something, and then at the engagment party spend some extra time with them, and speak with them individually.

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Sounds like a good idea then! Do you know what you're going to give them? You had mentioned giving them a little something

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I plan on doing it at the engagement party (whenever that will be, lol) I want to give them a little something too. I don't know what they will be yet. The girls are kind of easy (maybe a scrapbook or something) but what should we give to the guys. FH wants to give something too and he said 'its not going to be a scrapbook!' IMAGINE?!

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This is were I am hung up..... I do not knwo what I am going to give. I am still trying to figure it out. I like the scrapbook idea, but that wouldnt work for me....... So I have to put my brain to work here..... I will let you know as soon as I come up with something.

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I'm not very creative so I went to Borders and searched the wedding section for bridesmaid handbooks-they have quite a few cute ones. I bought one for each of them. I figured that since this is the first time that any of them will be bridemaids, and since I'm not entirely sure what their 'job' is, maybe the book could help them out or give them some ideas. It wasn't very personal, but they all found it really helpful.

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I was going to do that too.. but with a large bridal party it would've been too expensive for me... maybe i'll give it to them as part of their christmas presents

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I'm thinking I'm going to do something different for each one. I know my out of state cousin I will make her a special card and send her flowers. This way when she gets them and reads them it will be a huge surprise. I might have to get my aunt's help though in order to make sure the handmade card gets delivered with the flowers. I also have another girl out of state I might ask that I will do the same thing. However for her, we have known each other since we were born, and we have pictures of us up til now where we stand in the same spots hold our hands the same way and turn our feet the same way. I would take these pictures and do something special with them and ask her with that. My friends here. Im not sure yet. Some sort of handmade card and dinner is what I'm thinking, but I'm not sure yet!!!

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I have 2 of my cousins and my new sister in law...well she will be in October.. I have already informally asked them, my cousins are in Florida. I will be asking 2 of my friends also, but I wanted to wait a little while. When I ask them, I will give little gifts to all of them. I don't think there is a wrong or right way...whatever works best depending on the situation.