Inviting Bosses/Co-workers...

I work in a department of ten in a company of 75. I have two bosses that I report to, one is higher than the other. I am inviting all 8 co-workers with guests. Do I invite my bosses? I work with one on a daily basis. I think I should atleast extend the invitation being that I am inviting the whole department yet I dont know if he would come nor do I want him to feel obligated to come. Any suggestions? What is everyone else doing? THANKS!!!

Inviting Bosses/Co-workers...

I'm in a similar situation-I decided (Just today) that I will be inviting my 2 bosses and most people from my dep't.....It ends up being 15 people from work plus their spouses. 30 is A LOT but I felt bad leaving someone out.

Inviting Bosses/Co-workers...

PrincessBride, I think that if you invite 8 coworkers with guests, that 2 bosses should be included and it seems that it won't make much of a difference. I think I read somewhere about etiquette that if you invite coworkers, you should invite bosses. I too have been concerned that a guest that I want to invite may feel obligated to come (it is not a collegue). But, I've come to the conclusion that I should invite who I want to, and it's their decision whether or not they want to attend. I am not going to NOT invite them, b/c they MIGHT not come. I'm leaving all coworkers out to make it easier, since our wedding is only 60 people.

Inviting Bosses/Co-workers...

I dont want to invite them thinking they MIGHT not come, I just dont want him to feel OBLIGATED to come because I invited him. I think it may be awkward if he comes because he is my boss, but I dont feel right inviting the whole department and leaving him out!!

princessbride

Don't worry about whether your boss will feel obligated, I would focus more on the fact that if you invite the other coworkers, you should invite them. It's his decision! What have other brides here heard about the etiquette?? Anyway, think about what is most important to you (you feeling awkward, him feeling obligated, leaving him out, etc) and go from there.

princessbride

I am inviting coworks, as well as bosses. If they come they come, if they don't, no big deal. It is their option. Interestingly, my coworks said that they are not bringing dates (some have long-term relationships, some don't). I was very surprised, and told them the invites will all say 'and Guest' and they can bring or not. However, knowing they want to have fun and not worry about their SOs, leaves me with more spaces for people who I may not have invited to keep the numbers down. I have the problem of working in 3 different places...with 3 sets of coworkers and 3 sets of bosses. The primary set where I have been the longest takes precedence, however I will invite the bosses of the other 2 places. I haven't decided on the coworkers from these places. Like my FH says: Invite! Let them take the option of coming or not.

Princessbride

I think you should invite your boss for sure. Coworkers should be invited based on if you hangout with them after work, have their phone numbers or know them for along time. We work in retail so we work with over 300 people. We invited only the ones we have lunch with, gone to their weddings, hungout with after work or the ones that knew us from the day we started working at this place. We are having a large party so we are able to invite 80 coworkers and some have spouses or longtime dating mates. We don't mind if they don't come but we feel that we should invite them. Some will send you a gift if they are not able to come but will thank you for inviting them.

I have 5 bosses!

I have 5 bosses- I have better personal relationships with two of the higher level bosses, but it would be really bad not to invite the lower level one (who was just assigned to me last month)One of my bosses lives in Colorado, so I doubt she`ll come, but I guess I should invite her anyway. One I work with everyday, so I'm sure he'll come, and then I have a regionalized supervisor who isn't technically my boss, but she tells me what to do-so I guess I should invite her too! Does any of this make sense? Its all about politics.

I was going to invite a bunch of people from work ...

but just decided on my co-worker, my direct boss. Invite who you care about and who you think actually cares about you. I've have been let down by a few of acquaintances at work - that I decided to keep it small and make room for the people that I's rather be there like grammar school and high school friends. That is more important to me. Good LUck!