Feeling Overwhelmed

Lately, I've been feeling completely out of control about EVERYTHING.

Work: we just lost yet another attorney. I got half his cases. I already had my own full case load, and half the cases from another person that left. Problem with the new cases, is that attorney was sooooo disorganized he doesn't have files for everything, and I've been running into court without files and without ever having met the client!

We have also been working without a contract since 1/1/05. No raise since 7/1/04, and staff has been cut so severely I'm working without a secretary.

The courts are so clogged they started hearing cases at 8:30 AM - a full hour early, yet I don't get out of work a full hour early on court days!!!!!!!!!

Home: as you may have read in the last few weeks, my 25 year old nephew was clinically diagnosed with Huntington's Disease. It is uncurable, results in death, and destroys the body one muscle at a time as the brain deteriorates. There is absolutely, positively nothing we can do. Talk about out of control and feeling helpless.

My MOH/sister is also flipping out the family by suggesting she is quitting her very well paying job to be a stay at home mom - not that there is anything wrong with that if your hubby can support the family. Problem is - her's can't! She worked very hard for her multiple degrees, and now she is threatening to just throw it all the way. It's creating a lot of tension.

Wedding: How on earth am I going to pay for this?? I know I have it budgeted. I know that I have an automatic transfer set up so that I am saving the right amount of money each paycheck. FH on the other hand, just can't seem to get it together, and keeps telling me it will all work out. The guest list has kids on it - which I don't want, but FH won't budge - he thinks it's wrong to exclude them, and thinks it's wrong for us to attempt to parent other people's kids by excluding them from our evening wedding. We just finished argument number 6 over the honeymoon. I don't want to pay $800 per person for airfare, and I don't want to fly out of Newark, but he thinks the only way to get cheap airfare is to fly out of NJ. I wanted the STD's in the mail before the postage increase. Didn't happen, and now after driving around all weekend I can't find a post office that has the old 60 cent stamps and 3 cent stamps. One guy at one post office suggested I spend 78 cents each to mail them out!! It is such a scam. They raise the postage price, then they don't have the proper stamps available to force people to spend more money than is actually required!! I knew the 63 cent stamps weren't yet available - but come on - 5 post offices and not one could sell me 63 cents without having it metered!!!!!!!!! I don't need the post office for metered postage - I can do that at work!

Okay, pity party over. Thanks for reading.

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I'm so sorry about your nephew, and just the fact that you are going through so much... We are all here for you, and even though we aren't going through the 'same' things, we do understand some things.... Many hugs for you

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breathe...things have a way of working things out. just pick the battles you want to fight and let the others roll of your shoulders. everything will fall into place...just don't forget to breathe.

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Use your FH as a shoulder to cry on. Use us as a place to vent. You are a brilliant woman and you will use what G-d gave you to figure things out! GOOD LUCK AND LOTS OF THESE:

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Darlen hun, Sounds like you need a few drinks!! No stress, take deep breaths and , Jay is right, everything will work out in the end. Wedding planning ***** the life out of all of us, it will get better , I promise.

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I relate!!! I am so sorry you are going thru this!!!

Stay strong - you can get thru this!!!

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Posted by Goldi1021

Use your FH as a shoulder to cry on. Use us as a place to vent. You are a brilliant woman and you will use what G-d gave you to figure things out! GOOD LUCK AND LOTS OF THESE:

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Thanks Leslie. Unfortunately, FH keeps saying he doesn't understand what I mean when I say I'm overwhelmed, and I have apparantly lost my ability to articulate. I did however know that everyone here would. Thanks for the .

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Don't worry Darlene, I'll explain it all to Jay tomorrow after a couple of beers.

Don't worry about the things you can't control. I know it's easier said than done, but that's what I'm learning to do. Things have a funny way of working out, and I'm sure most of these issues, while looking huge right now, will seem like nothing months from now.

And if you need me for anything, you knowI'm here!!

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Posted by BKtoLI

Don't worry Darlene, I'll explain it all to Jay tomorrow after a couple of beers.

Don't worry about the things you can't control. I know it's easier said than done, but that's what I'm learning to do. Things have a funny way of working out, and I'm sure most of these issues, while looking huge right now, will seem like nothing months from now.

And if you need me for anything, you knowI'm here!!

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Ya know, it's almost the things that I can't control that are really making me the most nuts. The work load at the office is something I can't control and it's really stressing me out because I feel like if I'm not careful I'll commit malpractice. The salary is also something I can't control at the moment, which stresses me out because I have a wedding to pay for. I can't do anything about my nephew's diagnosis AT ALL, and since I'm his mom's health care proxy (and have been making all decisions for her for years) I know what the disease does, and no one else in the family really gets it. Half the family wants to bury their head in the sand, and the other half wants him to be genetically tested. For what?? So we can confirm beyond any doubt that the kid is dying??? Why should we take away the last little bit of hope the kid has??

ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!