Need love advice for a friend

Okay gals, I knew that this would be the place to go for some answers.

So my best friend, who is like my sister, is in love with this guy mike, now I have known mike for many years and can honestly say besides FH, he is the sweetest, most honest, loving guy I know. MY bf also feels this way, also she knows that nonone else understands or loves her like him, so here is the problem, she calls me up and says she is breakin up with him, might have already done so.

The reason, is his looks, alot of people who do not know mike, may think he is not that cute, when they compare the two. I told her looks dont matter when you love someone, and she knows this, but can't get past his appearance, or what other think of him(mostly her family), (he's not that bad looking), but I guess to her people's comments are makign her see him differently and then treat him different now. and the thing is she said'you know if he was a little cuter, I would marry him', 'he is everything I have ever wanted'!

When I told her love is blind, she snapped at me and said I wouldnt understand her point b/c my FH is cute, but I dont think I would judge him no matter what he looked like.

I know she loves him, and they do have some other minor issues, but I think she is making a big mistake, what can I do to help her, she so young and niave, and she is breaking mikes heart..

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Wow, this is tough. Honestly you mention that she is young so is it possible she has a 'different' idea of what love is? I mean, if she's completely in love with this person she would love all of him and accept him for who he is. I can't accurately express what i'm getting at other than if she made the comment that she'd marry him if he were cuter, then he's not the person for her to marry and he's probably better off that she end it now. Sorry if this sounds harsh but it just doesn't make sense to me. If she's worried about what other people think then she has to first be confident and comfortable with herself before she can commit to anyone in a relationship.

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I went through something similar with my FH - I really liked him and he was the nicest guy I EVER met and he always did things for me, treated me like a princess and he loved my cats, which takes a lot, but I was going to break up with him anyway because of a very stupid reason. I realized I was just looking for ANY reason to break up with him because I didn't want to get hurt. Maybe it's the same with your friend, she's saying it's b/c he's not cute enough, but it could have been 'he doesn't make enough money' or 'he has back hair' or 'his voice it too weird'... I am just making up stuff, but the point is, I think maybe she's just using the 'he's not cute enough' as an excuse when there's really something much deeper there. If it's really true love and he's that great a guy it wouldn't matter about the looks. Besides, looks change as people get older, they get better or worse looking, George Clooney used ot be pretty dorkey looking, now look at him!

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it may be beyond naitivity

maybe she is just not attracted to him?

im sorry but i think you need to be physically attracted to someone to be with them? i love fh's looks- hes my dream man..

i dont think it matters how OTHER people view him, but if she personally doesnt like his looks then its her decision if she wants to end it. sometimes its not enough just being a great guy. you need to feel love and passion for this person and like looking at them too