jealous family members

Is there anyone besides me having problems with family members thats jealous of you and your fiance' and trying to cause problems?

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yes

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Oh yeah. My FH has this sister who is starting huge family arguments to take the attention away from us. She also didnt come to our engagement party and has said she is not coming to our wedding. ***k her!

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yup

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I don't know if this really counts as jealous necessarily, but listen to the crap that I'm dealing with:

My fiance has a half-sister who lives out in California. They aren't very close, but they talk on the phone a couple of times a year, and e-mail sporadically.

My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 2 years, and our wedding date has been set for over a year and a half. She has known when we were getting married the entire time.

About a month ago, his sister got engaged. She is 34, which is 8 years older than my fiance. She didn't even have the decency to call my fiance to tell him she's engaged-- he heard about it through the grapevine.

Well, turns out she is getting married before us... ONLY 6 DAYS BEFORE US! She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first. She also said that she will be at his wedding, and she expects him to be at hers.

Please keep in mind this girl lives in California, and that's where the wedding is!!!


Needless to say, both my fiance and I are very angry and we collectively decided that we will NOT go to her wedding, being that it is only 6 days before ours, and we will have a lot of last minute details to take care of.

Am I right for being REALLLLLY pissed off at her?!!!

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Posted by EvaLution333

I don't know if this really counts as jealous necessarily, but listen to the crap that I'm dealing with:

My fiance has a half-sister who lives out in California. They aren't very close, but they talk on the phone a couple of times a year, and e-mail sporadically.

My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 2 years, and our wedding date has been set for over a year and a half. She has known when we were getting married the entire time.

About a month ago, his sister got engaged. She is 34, which is 8 years older than my fiance. She didn't even have the decency to call my fiance to tell him she's engaged-- he heard about it through the grapevine.

Well, turns out she is getting married before us... ONLY 6 DAYS BEFORE US! She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first. She also said that she will be at his wedding, and she expects him to be at hers.

Please keep in mind this girl lives in California, and that's where the wedding is!!!


Needless to say, both my fiance and I are very angry and we collectively decided that we will NOT go to her wedding, being that it is only 6 days before ours, and we will have a lot of last minute details to take care of.

Am I right for being REALLLLLY pissed off at her?!!!

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WOW, that is insane!!!! what do his parents say about this? You aren't going are you? I definately would not go, infact, i would have already had my words with her.

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Posted by EvaLution333
She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first.

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Um my brother is the third of 4 children and he was the first to get married (his first marriage).

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Posted by EvaLution333
She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first.

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Umm....does she think that this is the 18th century? Because even then, it only applied to daughters, not sons.

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me too!!!

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

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Posted by EvaLution333
She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first.

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Umm....does she think that this is the 18th century? Because even then, it only applied to daughters, not sons.

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Seriously! She is crazy.

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of course, i think that it's in the 'Give the bride more stress' handbook

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Posted by EvaLution333

I don't know if this really counts as jealous necessarily, but listen to the crap that I'm dealing with:

My fiance has a half-sister who lives out in California. They aren't very close, but they talk on the phone a couple of times a year, and e-mail sporadically.

My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 2 years, and our wedding date has been set for over a year and a half. She has known when we were getting married the entire time.

About a month ago, his sister got engaged. She is 34, which is 8 years older than my fiance. She didn't even have the decency to call my fiance to tell him she's engaged-- he heard about it through the grapevine.

Well, turns out she is getting married before us... ONLY 6 DAYS BEFORE US! She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first. She also said that she will be at his wedding, and she expects him to be at hers.

Please keep in mind this girl lives in California, and that's where the wedding is!!!


Needless to say, both my fiance and I are very angry and we collectively decided that we will NOT go to her wedding, being that it is only 6 days before ours, and we will have a lot of last minute details to take care of.

Am I right for being REALLLLLY pissed off at her?!!!

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Okay as I read your post I found myslef getting pissed off , I mean are ya kidding me, that is down right RUDE!!!
I think you and your FH are totally justified, no way would I get on a plane to fly to the other isde of the country 6 days before my wedding!!!

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yes - his side though not mine

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we all have them

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i have a cousin who is older to me that when she found out. i was engaged she instead of telling me congrats and that she is happy for me decided to tell me that i shouldnt do it. i am too young and that i wasn't ready.. i was 25. now she got engaged and was like omg can u believe it.. and me instead of being a witch said congrats... lol you cant win

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Posted by EvaLution333

I don't know if this really counts as jealous necessarily, but listen to the crap that I'm dealing with:

My fiance has a half-sister who lives out in California. They aren't very close, but they talk on the phone a couple of times a year, and e-mail sporadically.

My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 2 years, and our wedding date has been set for over a year and a half. She has known when we were getting married the entire time.

About a month ago, his sister got engaged. She is 34, which is 8 years older than my fiance. She didn't even have the decency to call my fiance to tell him she's engaged-- he heard about it through the grapevine.

Well, turns out she is getting married before us... ONLY 6 DAYS BEFORE US! She wrote my fiance an e-mail saying that she is older, and therefore she gets to get married first. She also said that she will be at his wedding, and she expects him to be at hers.

Please keep in mind this girl lives in California, and that's where the wedding is!!!


Needless to say, both my fiance and I are very angry and we collectively decided that we will NOT go to her wedding, being that it is only 6 days before ours, and we will have a lot of last minute details to take care of.

Am I right for being REALLLLLY pissed off at her?!!!

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i'd be furious!! thats ridiculous!!! i think you made the right decision by not going!!

kinda similar but not really my FH took FIL's out to dinner to ask their blessing to propose to me, he then started ring shopping with FMIL, FcousinIL, and FSIL2 (2 because shes younger). FSIL all of sudden got engaged a couple of weeks later to a boy she wasnt even 'dating' (they spent time together but if you asked she insisted they werent dating) and then insisted to FH he was not allowed to propose to me. He waited about 4 months before proposing to me to appease FSIL. Fsil was still furious because we 'stole her thunder' by getting engaged in the same year! She also got mad b/c she didnt make any effort to plan so 6 months after my engagement i chose periwinkle for my BMs, then she decided she was engaged first and i shouldve waited to see what she decided and she wanted perwinkle and got upset that FMIL, FCIL, and FSIL2 refused to even look at dresses for her in peri b/c that was my color.

long story shorter than it could be she called off her own engagement - then decided since they already paid for the honeymoon they might as well get married and sort of eloped (they called everybody on a wednesday that they were getting married friday) FH and I didnt go b/c we were going to school out of state and friday was midterms for us so two days notice wasn't sufficient. She still is mad at us for not going, mad that she didnt get a bridal shower, and made a scene at my shower running sobbing into the bathroom when i walked in and everyone yelled suprise, and then getting mad at FMIL and FSIL etc for not running into the bathroom after her and staying outside with me.


we all have jealous family members - it wouldnt be a wedding without it!

ETA: i have a cousin a few years older who told me when i got engaged i wasnt allowed to be married before her b/c shes older and my whole life i lived in hand me downs from her and she was supposed to hand me down my wedding related items and advice. by the way shes not even dating anyone - how long am i supposed to wait?

i love my family and FHs family and i know things will be fine after the wedding - weddings just bring out the bad side of some people.

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Posted by JennJay

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WOW, that is insane!!!! what do his parents say about this? You aren't going are you? I definately would not go, infact, i would have already had my words with her.

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Well, this is his half-sister from his dad's side. His dad died about 6 years ago, but I'm sure he'd be pissed off but not the least bit surprised. As for his mom, she has never gotten along with his sister, and she told me that his sister is just a selfish b!tch who feels she is entitled to everything in the entire world, and that I shouldn't stress about the situation.

However, my fiance's brother (full brother) is a little pissed that mhy fiance is not going to his half-sister's wedding. He thinks my fiance should go. I mean, yeah, why not-- leave ME to deal with all the last-minute planning details all my myself!