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lauren721
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7/21/2006 4:30 PM
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This is disturbing....
Yesterday, I went out to happy hour with a bunch of people that I work with. They are almost all married, or engaged, or seeing people, and they are all over each other! They havew no concept of the fact that they have significant others at home waiting forthem, and they are so cynical about their relationships. It is so sad. Last year, two of them were having this horrible affair- bot were married, and the guy had a one year old and his wife was 8 months pregnant! While he was out getting drunk, and fooling around, she was home hugely pregnant and running around after a baby! Whenever, I comment about their disgusting behavior, everyone is like, "You'll see what it is like when you get married, you will be doing the same thing! " I MOST CERTAINLY WILL NOT! Is it just me, or this really insane? They all act like it is normal.
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Posted 12/10/05 3:52 PM 
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Happybride2005
SPRING IS ALMOST HERE
Member since 5/04 15917 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/18/2005 3:30 PM
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Ariana Waterfall A+++++++++
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Re: This is disturbing....
it is insane. i have this guy at work, that goes to the copa a few times a week without his wife. no one says u can't go out without your wife, but he loves to dance with all the single girls
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Posted 12/10/05 3:59 PM
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sarahthegreat
sweet pea
Member since 11/03 6398 total posts
Wedding Date:
8/4/2006 12:00 AM
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stewart manor country club
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Re: This is disturbing....
not thats insane....that will most likelu not happen to me or anyone i know. yes things happen, but as far it being "normal" to cheat on our spouses....no, its not
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Posted 12/10/05 3:59 PM
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VogueBride
Baby on the way!
Member since 12/04 1765 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/22/2006 11:00 AM
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Milleridge Cottage
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Re: This is disturbing....
i feel bad for them....thats all i have to say. (meaning, i think is horrible!)
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Posted 12/10/05 4:05 PM
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soontobemrsv
I love being a newlywed!!!!!!!
Member since 4/05 2775 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/1/2006 5:30 PM
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CLM!
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Re: This is disturbing....
thats absolutely horrible and yes.. very disturbing
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Posted 12/10/05 4:22 PM
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Soon2BeMrs2006
So much to do so little time
Member since 6/05 10463 total posts
Wedding Date:
5/20/2007 3:00 PM
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Booked
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Re: This is disturbing....
those are people that should not be married.
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Posted 12/10/05 4:22 PM
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STBH
Loove being Mrs. Hall
Member since 11/05 2596 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/15/2006 11:00 AM
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by the water
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Re: This is disturbing....
i hate cheaters and homewreckers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted 12/10/05 4:24 PM
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JanuaryBride06
boyfriend in my head
Member since 4/05 13019 total posts
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1/8/2006 12:00 PM
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Re: This is disturbing....
That is beyond insane! If that's their definition of marriage, then they shouldn't be married.
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Posted 12/10/05 5:34 PM
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Tracy&Brian
Mrs. Johnson at Last!!!!
Member since 10/05 1387 total posts
Wedding Date:
9/2/2006 7:00 PM
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The Swan Club
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Re: This is disturbing....
I started a new job four weeks ago and a bunch of people (married and in relationships mostly) are sleeping with other people in the office. It is so bad and out of control, no one is allowed to bring their spouses for the Christmas party this year for fear of a fight breaking out (this is the first year they are instituting this rule). The head bosses all know about these "affairs" and I think some of them are even involved with people in the office. I feel like I work in the middle of a big ORGY. I love my job otherwise, but everyday there is constant drama. Its so disgusting and scary to see how many married people completely ignore thier vows and cheat. Its horrendous and terrifying to me and constantly makes me wonder if that could ever happen to my "healthy relationship" with my FH. Do people really begin to hate each other after they get married??? Its very scary to even think about...
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Posted 12/10/05 5:53 PM
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sk1nny27
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Member since 11/05 609 total posts
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1/14/2006 10:00 AM
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Re: This is disturbing....
Posted by lauren721
Yesterday, I went out to happy hour with a bunch of people that I work with. They are almost all married, or engaged, or seeing people, and they are all over each other! They havew no concept of the fact that they have significant others at home waiting forthem, and they are so cynical about their relationships. It is so sad. Last year, two of them were having this horrible affair- bot were married, and the guy had a one year old and his wife was 8 months pregnant! While he was out getting drunk, and fooling around, she was home hugely pregnant and running around after a baby! Whenever, I comment about their disgusting behavior, everyone is like,
"You'll see what it is like when you get married, you will be doing the same thing! " I MOST CERTAINLY WILL NOT! Is it just me, or this really insane? They all act like it is normal.
i will be damned. i talk about this with FH. it is truely disturbing!!!!
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Posted 12/10/05 6:35 PM
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akaMrsT
Formally Mrs. T -aka no longer
Member since 7/04 4000 total posts
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3/30/2006 6:00 PM
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Re: This is disturbing....
Posted by Tracy&Brian
I started a new job four weeks ago and a bunch of people (married and in relationships mostly) are sleeping with other people in the office. It is so bad and out of control, no one is allowed to bring their spouses for the Christmas party this year for fear of a fight breaking out (this is the first year they are instituting this rule). The head bosses all know about these "affairs" and I think some of them are even involved with people in the office. I feel like I work in the middle of a big ORGY. I love my job otherwise, but everyday there is constant drama. Its so disgusting and scary to see how many married people completely ignore thier vows and cheat. Its horrendous and terrifying to me and constantly makes me wonder if that could ever happen to my "healthy relationship" with my FH. Do people really begin to hate each other after they get married??? Its very scary to even think about...
No, most people do not hate each other after they get married.
I think most office affairs happen when the people work in close proximity and for extended periods without seeing their spouse. I know of many office hook ups between married or involved people. One woman (married) was caught having sex in a rarely used area of the building with her side guy. 
As for the no spouses or dates at the office holiday party - been there done that and have seen many a hook up from that too
One office hook up that I know of has resulted in a child and the woman quickly married her boyfriend and not the side guy - who himself is married with twins. It's just a mess and the new husband has no idea that the child is most likely NOT his. I only know since guys do gossip and FH was told about all the details.
Last but not least, a friends ex (an NYPD lieutenant) had an office hook up and now he has a child with a woman from work (someone in narcotics). My friend dumped him since he can't even be trusted to go to work without sleeping around (and she caught him doing it before with a different woman from work)  
ETA - I still thik these are isolated cases and that not everyone cheats. 
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Posted 12/10/05 6:56 PM
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MattsBride
Married over a year! Oh My!
Member since 11/05 2925 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/16/2006 3:00 PM
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Galaxie Caterers
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Re: This is disturbing....
That is terrible! And yes, VERY disturbing!! I have never seen that going on and I'm surprised that the people doing it are so open about it!
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Posted 12/10/05 8:10 PM
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MrsStefan
We're MARRIED!!!
Member since 1/05 5990 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/14/2006 10:00 AM
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Giorgio's A++++++
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Re: This is disturbing....
That IS horrible! And insane...if you are SO unhappy in your marriage then try to work it out, or get out of the marriage..and for GOD SAKE...STOP MAKING BABIES if you are that unhappy ni your marriage. I feel bad for the prego wife at home! There is a guy at my job who hits on the woman all the time but nobody entertains him. I couldnt even image!
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Posted 12/10/05 9:56 PM
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ChrissynRicky
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Member since 2/05 14639 total posts
Wedding Date:
4/30/2006 3:00 PM
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Fox Hollow - Woodbury, NY
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Re: This is disturbing....
To me, it's disturbing, but I'm surprised by it. I work in Finance, and I can't tell you how many times I've seen the rings slip off into pockets at happy hour, parties, etc....
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Posted 12/10/05 11:29 PM
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jenheartsrob
"I'm Addicted"
Member since 6/05 1564 total posts
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10/7/2006 12:00 PM
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Coral House
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Re: This is disturbing....
that's so troubling to me... makes me wonder how it gets that bad, or what their relationships were like when they were good and got married... do things really deteriorate like that? :( sad thought....
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Posted 12/10/05 11:36 PM
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Mrs. dleeny
My most beautiful day ever
Member since 3/05 12395 total posts
Wedding Date:
11/6/2005 5:00 PM
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Swan Club A+
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Re: This is disturbing....
I find this behavior revolting!
I have seen people do this, a LOT! now that I am married (and even before) I wouldn't DREAM of doing something like that.
clearly these people are not in love. a person in love would never behave this way IMO
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Posted 12/10/05 11:54 PM
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waterspout4
I gave birth to a todddler
Member since 9/04 4781 total posts
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4/1/2006 2:30 PM
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Mediterranean Manor A++++++++++
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Re: This is disturbing....
I agree with you all! This is disturbing. It seems that people enter marriage because they like to know that someone is waiting for them when they get home....er....IF they come home.
I work with a guy who leaves work with a woman for a "second" lunch break, and his wife calls all the time. So sad.
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Posted 12/11/05 3:49 AM
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Tracilee82
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5/28/2006 4:00 PM
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Re: This is disturbing....
I hate to hear this stuff!!! There is so much of this going on today, and it's just horrible to hear. I don't agree with it either way, but when there's kids involved, I hate it even more! So many people can't have kids and can't seem to find the right person, and then you have the people that take advantage of it all!
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Posted 12/11/05 7:19 AM
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seta
Can you get over yourself?
Member since 6/05 3927 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/21/2006 12:00 AM
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Fox Hollow - N/A
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Re: This is disturbing....
That is.. i was in a situation like that at a work function..and it was such a turn off. i swear i couldn't look at that co-worker for a long time..it really made me loose all respect for them.
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Posted 12/11/05 8:44 AM
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October Bliss
Beyond Obsession
Member since 8/05 7629 total posts
Wedding Date:
10/8/2006 2:30 PM
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Country Gardens @ East Wind
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Re: This is disturbing....
IMHO, if you find the "right" person, you will do whatever it takes to make it work, always. However, when in a relationship with the "wrong" person, stepping outside the relationship doesn't seem all that bad (or wrong). There are a few friends I stopped speaking to because they stepped outside their marriage, and I thought it was completely wrong, dishonest and disgusting. Then I decided I had no idea what was going on in their relationship, and I was being too judgmental. (one girl in particular had a HUGE fear of being alone, and despite being in a psychologically abusive relationship couldn't leave until she found someone else to "take care of her" - did that make cheating right? No, but after I heard all the facts and circumstances I understood what she did and why [although I thought counseling to build her self-esteem to leave was a much better option]) Do I think you're insane? No. Do I think cheating is wrong? Yes. Do I think cheating is normal? In certain circles, there are those that think it is.
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Posted 12/11/05 1:15 PM
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lauren721
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Member since 12/04 509 total posts
Wedding Date:
7/21/2006 4:30 PM
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Waterfront
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Re: This is disturbing....
I would never be able to live with myself if I even entertained the thought of cheating on my FI-- he is the most wonderful man and would NEVER do that to me. I don't know how people forget to think about their spouses and children- just their own horniness! That is why I rarely go to work functions- they will all hate me soon because I can't help speaking my mind -- I tell them right to their faces how pathetic they are!
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Posted 12/11/05 3:06 PM
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Mrs. Powell
DH Sure Knows How to spoil Me
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Re: This is disturbing....
They are really pathetic. I have to wander about some people at times. Marriage is not a game. If you cannot live up to the vows nad responsibility then they need not be married.
Message edited 12/11/2005 3:51:22 PM.
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Posted 12/11/05 3:50 PM
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