Bridesmaid Dress Hell!! (long)

Help! I am in bridesmaid dress hell!! I bought my wedding gown at Davids Bridal and if my bridesmaids order their dresses by Feb 28th they get a 15% discount off their order. so naturally we looked at dress there. I fell in love with the spearmint color separates that they have there. all my bridesmaids are a size 14 or better, in their 30's and not looking for typical bridesmaids dresses!

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Happy Planning!!

Bridesmaid Dress Hell!! (long)

I'm sorry to hear your troubles, I thought I had problems w/ my BM. Have you looked at the prom dresses at Davids Bridal. My MOH and BM are choosing their dresses from the prom dress selection. We also like the seperates, but the one's we chose didn't come in our color. So to the prom dresses we went, they had a pretty good selection and they only take 5 weeks to come in. Also one of my BM is having her third baby in August and our wedding is in October. Talk about a time crunch. Is worst comes to worst I'll have her do a reading at the ceremony if it's too stressful for her to be an active BM one month after giving birth.

The best of luck and please don't stress over these things, they only give you pimples and make you hair fall out. :)

Happy Planning!!

Bridesmaid Dress Hell!! (long)

Thanks Nicky!! Your post made me laugh...I really dont want to get pimples or have my hair fall out!! Thanks for making me laugh!

Bridesmaid Dress Hell!! (long)

Lisa - I also had a bit of a hellish time with the BMs and still am! I have a MOH and 3 BMs. The MOH and 2 of the BM's are heavy. My sister (MOH) and I went to Bridal Reflections (that's where I got my dress) and tried to pick a gown that would work (we thought) for everyone. It wasn't too cheap ($210) but we really liked it. So we all get together to do a fitting and everyone seems to be o.k. with it. Turns out that one of the BMs size exceeds the size chart immensely, so they have to custom make the dress from scratch (yet another reason why we could have never bought off the rack). This means her dress will cost $550!!! I gave her the opportunity to drop out because I think that that is an insane amount of money to pay for a dress that we all know she will never wear again.

Anyway, she says she is doing it because she loves me, but now she is throwing every other penny she has to spend back in my face. It is ugly. Turns out also, that the one BM who is a smaller size will be 7 months pregnant with her second baby at the wedding. She mentioned it to the store (but not to me) when they went for the fitting and the store said she should just tell them the size to order since they needed to place the order all together to get the dye the same color. Well, I personally think she underestimated on the size she ordered and I have NO idea how this is going to play out.

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Wow what stress! Just reading your message has my stomach in knots. I got married last year... My close friend is getting married this summer and ordered the dresses for us (I sent her my measurements).. I am just curious, how tall is your sister that she needs extra length? I never had a problem with extra length but I am 5'8' and am wondering if I should have cause for concern

Anyway, she says she is doing it because she loves me, but now she is throwing every other penny she has to spend back in my face. It is ugly. Turns out also, that the one BM who is a smaller size will be 7 months pregnant with her second baby at the wedding. She mentioned it to the store (but not to me) when they went for the fitting and the store said she should just tell them the size to order since they needed to place the order all together to get the dye the same color. Well, I personally think she underestimated on the size she ordered and I have NO idea how this is going to play out.

Make your own???

Hi Lisa Rose;

Since you're considering separates, what about making the skirts and buying a top? Do you or any of the Mom's or bridal party sew? That was my solution since I have bridesmaids ranging from a tall, thin size 4 to a pear-shaped size 18+ and they live in 3 different states - none of them where I am.

Make your own???

Karen...that is a great idea!! My mom sews and maybe she can make the skirts!!

Make your own???

Hi Lisa Rose,

Another suggesstion, call Cynthia @ The Husband Shoppe (516-367-1740) & she'll probably make it for the same price or better than the store including alterations! And one of my bridesmaids is trying to get pregnant too and she is nothing but accommodating. This way everyone could get exactly what they want.

Make your own???

Thank you so much! I will call her!

Bridesmaid Dress Hell!! (long)

Uggh! I haven't even looked for my Bridesmaid's Dresses yet and my wedding is November 3rd! My sister (MOH) lives in Los Angeles and has a 34 DDD chest and and wears a size 6 pants (small waist)! MAJOR ALERTATIONS will be needed!

The bridal salon where I ordered my dress told me to have her measured out in Los Angeles. I am going with my best friend to look at dresses in 2-weeks. My other bridesmaid (FI's sister) wears a size 1 (yes...a size 1)..so everything should fit her.

Something to think about (LONG)

I'm sorry to hear of your stresses. You certainly have a lot going on, but at the same time, is it really right to expect someone to put off a pregnancy for your wedding? Sure, your wedding is about you, but this couple's pregnancy is about them. Both are very special moments for the couples involved and neither should take precidence over the other. I don't think it's fair that you would expect someone to put off bringing a child into this world just for you one special day. For your one day, this couple has to delay by eight or nine months. That's an awful long time to wait just because of one day. Just pick a color for the dresses and put the order in. Let her know her dress size can always be worked out. Stressing about a dress just seems very petty in comparison to someone having a child. Imagine if the roles were reversed and she told you to wait until after her wedding to have your child. Chances are you might think she is selfish.

Please don't be offended by this. In my situation, my bridesmaid lost the baby she was carrying. They were told they need to wait a couple of months before they can try again. Believe me, the thought has crossed my mind that if she were to become pregnant again, she'd be right in the middle of her term, instead of one month past. But I just can't let myself get upset if they were to try again and successfully get through the first critical months. Their loss was devastating to them and I have absolutely no right and am in no position to tell them now that they need to wait to clear our wedding date. As a friend, they have my blessing and wishes if they do choose to try again.

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I ordered the Bill Levkoff separates for the girls. One of them is taller than most and they were able to accomodate her with a longer skirt. Also, I my MOH is a 16+ and everything fit her just fine. I ordered the A Line skirt and the sleeveless top. They had them at Adrienne's when I looked this time last year. I ordered from Paradise Bridal in Patchogue. Hope this helps!

Does anyone know of any upcoming showcases? I've seen three DJ's and am not impressed overall - for one reason or another.

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Something to think about-Lisa Rose

I hear what you are saying. I saw in your first post that you were not saying to your friend to not get pregnant, I think the whole topic of a friend's pregnancy struck a chord close to home for the person who responded to you.
I just want to say that as for if your friend telling everyone not to be pregnant during her wedding, I would try to keep that out of my feelings about her possible pregnancy. It sounds like a selfish comment on her part at the time and now that she is hoping to be in that state herself, I'm sure if she thought about it now, she'd be embarrassed. I know with my wedding, I try to find the balance between thinking the world should revolve around my day and laughing at myself when I realize what I am doing. It's OK to have the feelings of 'she did this and now she expects this' - I think we all have them from time-to-time. I try to work through them so I don't come across as a bridezilla or be unfair to people I love. If it helps to vent here, definitely do. This board has helped me gain perspective many times. Hang in there on the wedding planning roller coaster ride. :o)

Something to think about (LONG)

I understand where you are coming from but in my messages I clearly stated that I would never tell any of my bridesmaids NOT to get pregnant! I would absolutaly no problem if one or all of them were pregnant. The problem I have is that she is asking me to wait to order the dresses so she can see if she is going to get pregnant. If the bridesmaids dress color had nothing to do with the rest of the wedding then by all means lets wait until the summer to order but my mom and FMIL need to order dresses too.

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Just wondering if you could pick a dress color before ordering the dresses. This way you can order your flowers and such and wont be as stressed about things. If you pick a 'more popular' color, then you wont have to worry about not finding a dress in that color. For example, I decided I am going to make my bridesmaids wear navy- but we have another 6 months or so before we have to order the dresses.

theknot.com shows either way to be correct - either 'Mr & Mrs. Smith' or 'Bob and Sally' but I think your guests are probably not buzzing about your faux pas. I hope not....otherwise my guests are buzzing about how I didn't even address the inner envelopes. It was just stressing me too much at the moment and my printer was misbehaving. People did say how pretty the font looked on the outer envelope though.

Don't let this stuff get your crazy, brides, it's all good stuff.

Something to think about (LONG)

I was thinking about doing that also...but I guess the real underlying problem is the bridesmaid. I have been in numerous weddings and I never said a word to the bride that I didn't like the dress, the color or that I cant order now for what ever reason. And I have been asked to wear some really bad dresses that did not flatter my figure at all and some hidious colors!! LOL