My SHower is on Sunday ( abit of a vent) UPDATE

My shower is not a surprise since my schedule is terrible and certain family members are away on vacation - so they had to pick a date that works with us all...

i am excited - 52 people are coming - but then there is a tinge of worry - my FH - has a cousin who likes to judge and well I know SHE is upset because it is not a surprise and because my FMIL is the one hosting it instead of my MOH (my sister is a part time student and can't afford to throw a shower for 52 people most of whom are FH's family) and so my FMIL said she would do it for me -

so this cousin - well I know she talks about me behind my back - she even criticized my REGISTRY! Saying that there is stuff on there that i don't need - meanwhile SHE was with me and suggested most of it...

I know that she is going to be making faces when I walk in - as if I forced her uncle and aunt to host my shower - and also when I open my gifts I know she will be making fun of my gifts - saying that it is stuff I don't need -

she said I had way too many glasses and wine glasses on my registry -

she is also not on good terms with several people who are going to be there - she has offended a few in her time and they don't like her and are going for me -

so although I am excited about my shower -

still it is tainted - and my chest is all tight and I feel out of breath when I think about it -

Re: My SHower is on Sunday ( abit of a vent)

I had someone like that at my shower also. She had a big puss on her face the entire time. The only thing I can tell you is that you are so caught up with all your other guests and having such a good time, that you wont even pay her any mind. After the shower a couple of people came up to me and asked me what was up with her. I simply told them she was unhappy and I felt sorry for her. She's the one that ended up looking like a loser. Dont let her get to you, the moment you let her get under your skin is the moment she wins.

Have a wonderful shower and I hope you get all the gifts you want!!

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Thank you - I f I know her she will put on a happy face and pretend like my shower was great - and then only after will she talk sh*t behind my back - but you are right - I am just so happy that my family will be there too - and that I can be proud of them - this is also the first time the families are meeting -

my parents have met FH's parents -

but extend family this si the first time -

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Everyone has someone like that in their family or their future family. Don't let her comments ruin your day, because that is what she wants. People like that make themselves feel better by making you feel worse...so don't let her get the best of you!

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your day is going to be beautiful and exciting!!!! dont even let that miserable chic ruin even one moment of your shower!!! things will be fine....

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Well, that is just horrible! Me, I would sick my MOH on them (hehehehhe) I'm sorry but yea, luckily you are having so many people there that you can just sit her right in the back of the room and put a lot of tall people in front of her

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Posted by Pmpkn087

Everyone has someone like that in their family or their future family. Don't let her comments ruin your day, because that is what she wants. People like that make themselves feel better by making you feel worse...so don't let her get the best of you!

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Well said!!! You will have a wonderful time!

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yea I had a guest like that except it was my Aunt I found out later on she was saying stuff behind my back. You will always have that just ignore remember it is all about you that day

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla

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Posted by Pmpkn087

Everyone has someone like that in their family or their future family. Don't let her comments ruin your day, because that is what she wants. People like that make themselves feel better by making you feel worse...so don't let her get the best of you!

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Well said!!! You will have a wonderful time!

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ditto that!!!

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UPDATE:

SO my FH calls me just now and tells me his cousin and her sister are at Macy's and that they called him yelling at him that my registry is really stupid and they don't know what to buy! THat I put a bunch of wine glasses and a WOK - and why do I need a stupid WOK!

I am freaking out because I am so mad right now!

My FH's told her that these are things that WE want and that just because she doesn't drink wine or cook on a WOK - doesn't mean we don't - and youknow what she did SHE HUNG UP ON HIM!! -



this is the same woman who made me scan a $500 dollar crystal candy bowl - (which I later removed) -

i seriously don't think I will make it to my shower without telling her off -

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Please don't let her suck all the joy and fun out of your day. She sounds like a bitter person who is impossible to please. It is NOT HER DAY---it is YOURS!!!! People are giving you gifts because they love you and you registered for them because you really liked the gifts! So enjoy!!!!!!! She sounds like a 'toxic' personality..... run.

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toxic - that is a good word -

yes - but what is really sad is that when she is NOT putting someone down or being judgemental - she is a great eprson and makes me laugh - I don't know why she behaves like this -

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Do NOT let her get the best of you! it will drive you crazy. I have someone very similiar on FH's side as well, and she was miserable at my shower. I just had a wonderful time and completly ignored her, with the exception of saying hello and goodbye. Your families are working so hard for you to have a special, wonderful day, don't let one miserably sad person bring you down, b/c then she wins!

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Posted by exotica776

your day is going to be beautiful and exciting!!!! dont even let that miserable chic ruin even one moment of your shower!!! things will be fine....

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I second this!

Re: My SHower is on Sunday ( abit of a vent) UPDATE

don't let her get to you. these r the gifts that YOU want. they'll be plenty of people there that will make u happy

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OMG!!! I can not believe the nerve of some people! It's unbelievable!!

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thanks everyone - I spoke to my mom and she made me feel better - she said that I shouldn't get angry at her - just feel bad for her that something like this can make a person who is not currently happy - really jealous - especially if I am marrying her younger cousin - she has to find something worng we me I guess right now it is my stupid registry choices -

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DO NOT LET ONE PERSON RUIN YOUR DAY!!! You will still have 51 wonderful people at your shower. Listen to this... FH's grandmother is not a very nice person. Now, I am very close to my FMIL... and she even complains about grandma alllll the time, she can't stand her.. Anyway, we were playing a game where my sister was asking 'how much do you know about Robyn and Matt?' and one of the questions was, 'What is Matt's favorite thing that Robyn cooks him?' And all of a sudden, his grandma goes, 'Oh, I didn't even know Robyn knew how to cook... I didn't know she cooks at all... I thought Matt did all the cooking.' There was complete silence and she made me look like a lazy idiot, even though hopefully, everyone knew it wasn't true. So this is just an example of how in a group of people there can be one sour person, but it doesn't have to stress you out. I didn't let her ruin my time because I realized you have to take it from who it comes from, and rise above it. Have a wonderful shower.

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I will say one word... Jealousy. I had a couple of those at my wedding, including my brother's wife who questioned if she should be in the family pic. Ummm I don't know

Totally ignore her- she is definately jealous of you and would LOVE it if she got a rise of out of you. Have a blast at shower and if she makes even one little comment, just start laughing. She will look like a total fool.