Bridal party update (a little long sorry)

Hey ladies some of you might remember that my fiance and I were having some issues with the size of our bridal party. We are trying to limit its size and his mom thinks we should include a number of extra family members (cousins). We are sticking to our guns and are limiting our bridal party to six bms and six ushers and of course the 4 flowergirls and the two ringbearers. Nevertheless his mom hasn't mentioned it to either of us and we are just going along with the smaller party. So much so that when I look for bridesmaids dresses I tell them I have six girls. Anyway yesterday my mom tells me that my brother came over and was looking for me to tell me that he thinks I should have his wife in the bridal party. (We had decided to keep in laws out so the party would be smaller.) He said that me and her are close and that she should be in. He says she feels bad and how is she going to feel when everyone leaves to take pictures and see stays behind. I cant tell you how angry this mad me. First of all I already spoke to my sister in law and explained how we were trying to keep the size small. That I would love to include her but if I did I would also have to include my sister's husband which I really didn't want to do and also increase the size of the party. She seemed fine with it she told me not to worry about it. That it will be easier for her. This way she can focus on her daughters and getting them ready that day. (They are two of my flowergirls.) I dont think this is coming from her since I spoke to her on the Fourth of July but I think this is my brother's thoughts. It would be nice to include everyone but we all know that not possible. I mean I have close gfs that I couldnt include. I was sooooooooo annoyed yesterday. And now I am just waiting for my brother to say something to me about it. I love how everyone tells you to do what you want yet everyone has opinions they love to give.

Re: Bridal party update (a little long sorry)

oh man!!!

Im sorry you are in such a sticky situation, but they cant expect you to have a million people in the bridal party!!!

I hope that your brother comes to his senses. Good luck

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'This is not up for discussion'. Case closed, next subject..

Try that...practice it, then say it to your brother.

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I understand how frustrating it is. I went through the exact same thing. WE wanted to keep our BP small and use friends only. There would be children (my nieces and nephews) but that was it in terms of family. I have 2 MUCH older sisters and a sister in law. NONE of them wanted to be bridesmaids so it was a non-issue so I never asked them. But FH also has two younger sisters. They were upset about it though I did not find out they were upset until 2 months after I asked everyone else. I really didn't know. I wasn't about to ask them because if MY family wasn't in it, then his wouldn't be either. We decided it was all or nothing. If I had everyone I wanted, I would have a BP of 12 instead of a BP of 7. They can pout all they want but sorry - no dice!

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Posted by Blu-ize

'This is not up for discussion'. Case closed, next subject..

Try that...practice it, then say it to your brother.

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I like this idea

Thanks ladies for listening!

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See that is why I am just having a MOH and BM. On top of the fact that is costs $$ to get all those in the party gifts, it is also an imposition on those in the party to now have to spend $$. I'll just have my MOH get a dress that she can wear again. OF COURSE, I need to approve the dress.

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Bridal parties give you so many issues, don't they? I would just talk to your brother and let him know that your mother mentioned that he had made a comment about his wife not being in the wedding party. Tell him quickly, the bridal party has been picked and unfortunetely you can't have a bigger bridal party because if you put her in, then other family members on his side have to go in to... I would talk to him right away to relieve the tension between the two of you.... you don't want to have in the back of your head 'urgh, when is he gonna say something about it.' Stick to your guns and leave your bridal party as is!! best of luck!!