QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

I was thinking about this last night...thoughts?

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

I always have at least covered my plate (at least I hope I have!)

ETA: there's probably 1 wedding where I didn't. it was at Windows on the World, these people were loaded. God only knows how much they paid per plate!

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I believe I have always at least covered my plate, except at one wedding where i know i was about $20 short

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

Yes, absolutely.............

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

Yes.......I have and I do.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

I didn't really think about it before, but seeing things from the paying perspective, i will always at least try to cover my plate.

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I usually give a set amount regardless of how much I think the per head was. It doesn't matter if it's at a fancy country club where the plate costs $200 or a place where the per head is $80. It's more about my relationship with the bride and groom and family.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

YES!!!

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

YES DEFINATELY

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FI and I went to a wedding a while back, we were engaged but hadn't started planning yet.... Neither of us had been to a wedding since we were kids and we gave, what I find out now to be not nearly enough of a gift. Since we began planning I am more in a wedding state of mind and am now really embarassed that FI didn't give more. It wasn't that we aren't generous its just that we were really out of touch with the realities of the costs of things ...Well as embarassing as it was, we will be more on top of this in the future.

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FH and I were just talking about this bc we went to a wedding a few weeks ago. Luckily we feel like we do cover our plates, but we are so much more aware now that we know how much different places charge, what extras are, etc.

I cannot get over how weddings are really like a business transaction....unbelievable!

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I always cover my plate...and if they if we are extra close to the couple we give more.

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i just had this discussion with the people at work and i really think it depends on your relationship with the person because some people definitely pay much more than I would give to even a family member. I don't think I should pay 400 to cover my plates to a work person especially when i know that person makes double what i make. i just can't afford it. barely anyone covered their plates for my wedding and i certainly was not expecting that of my guests. i paid what i paid and i don't think friends should have to give it back to me. i was just happy they were there with me. with the prices of weddings nowadays, i don't think the gift should go by what people are paying per plate. jmo

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I would if I could afford to cover my plate. When I was 21 going to weddings I don't think I always did that being I was a collage student living on my own but I gave what I could. Now that I'm planning my own I realize that its the party I chose to throw so if i'm inviting someone (i.e. my brother who is younger and living paycheck to paycheck) I would never expect him to pay for his plate..its what you can do and I really believe that a gift is a gift regardless.

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Posted by Blu-ize

I usually give a set amount regardless of how much I think the per head was. It doesn't matter if it's at a fancy country club where the plate costs $200 or a place where the per head is $80. It's more about my relationship with the bride and groom and family.

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I agree. It depends on my relationship with the bride and groom, not the cost of the plate.

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Posted by divabride

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Posted by Blu-ize

I usually give a set amount regardless of how much I think the per head was. It doesn't matter if it's at a fancy country club where the plate costs $200 or a place where the per head is $80. It's more about my relationship with the bride and groom and family.

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I agree. It depends on my relationship with the bride and groom, not the cost of the plate.

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ditto this!

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Posted by divabride

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Posted by Blu-ize

I usually give a set amount regardless of how much I think the per head was. It doesn't matter if it's at a fancy country club where the plate costs $200 or a place where the per head is $80. It's more about my relationship with the bride and groom and family.

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I agree. It depends on my relationship with the bride and groom, not the cost of the plate.

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same here

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

Well we were always generous with our gifts for weddings in the past IMO
I really don't take where they are getting married into account. Not to be mean but its the bride and grooms choice to pick a hall for $100 p/p or $300 p/p and I can't afford to give one couple $600 just so I know I covered my plate!!!
Also why should the couple who couldn't afford to spend more then $100 or less p/p get the same gift as everyone else????

Not everyone has the same financial situation. Some people have their parents paying for the wedding so it didn't cost them anything. Should I give nothing?

I base it more on my relationship with the couple then the hall. I would never give a cheaper gift b/c it was a less expensive hall so to be fair I can't give a more generous gift b/c its a more expensive hall.


If my good friend got married and had a bbq dinner in her backyard... I would give the same to her as if another close friend got married at Oheka.

Re: QOTD: Now that we know how much things cost, do you feel you have to cover your plate when you are a guest at a wedding?

Yes, always cover your plate!!!!

Only one time I didn't but he brides Dad is loaded and the wedding was in a castle. I think it was well over $500 per plate. So no, I didn't give her a 1,000 for me and my guest. But like I said, Daddy paid for it and she didn't expect everyone to cover there plate.

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We are more conscious of what we give now that we know how much everything costs. We usually try to cover our plate or make the best estimate.