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Shower drama....how should i handle this?

RENEE92405 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 08:22 AM+

RENEE92405 MEMBER SINCE: 9/04 TOTAL POSTS : 399 WEDDING DATE: Sep 24, 2005

Posted: Jul 18, 2005 08:22 AM

Shower drama....how should i handle this?

So my shower was yesterday!!! And yes it was a great surprise!!!!
But...i later find out that some of my co-workers were insulted that they were invited. There were a few of them there. My MOH planned this whole thing by herself! One of my coworkers that was invited called her saying that some other women were very offended that they weren't invited! So my MOH was like 'listen, the bride has nothing to do with this! I am doing all this myself and I really don't know who she is friendly with or not. Please let me know if there is someone I should add, it is not a problem.' One of these girls actually did get an invite but it went to the wrong address. NOt my MOH's fault, she took my preliminary wedding list and I had her old address. but she did eventually get it.
There were some people who weren't there that I definitely would have invited. But I obviously had no control.
So my question is...how should I handle this? I feel bad that these women were offended. Should I apologize and explain the situation? I can't stand when people act like this! Meanwhile they ALL got an invitation to the wedding.
Just an end note...My MOH did a terrific job! THe day was beautiful! ANd she did it all on her own. My mom lives in Las Vegas so couldn't plan anything, but the biggest surprise was she was there!!!!
Sorry this was so long. TIA

pinkstar025 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 08:28 AM+

pinkstar025 MEMBER SINCE: 1/04 TOTAL POSTS : 2378 WEDDING DATE: Nov 06, 2005

Posted: Jul 18, 2005 08:28 AM

Re: Shower drama....how should i handle this?

ok they need to get over it.

When you see /talk to them tell them that your MOH appologizes that there was a mixup with the invites and you wish they could have been there!

jes81276 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 08:54 AM+

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Posted: Jul 18, 2005 08:54 AM

Re: Shower drama....how should i handle this?

I don't think that you should apologize - you didn't do anything wrong...they do need to get over it.

lauren16 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 09:16 AM+

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Posted: Jul 18, 2005 09:16 AM

Re: Shower drama....how should i handle this?

I agree, you are not at fault. Not every woman invited to the wedding has to be invited to the shower, or else there will be 100 people there! It's not a big deal and it's wonderful that you enjoyed your shower. You will share in your big day with the people you work with, and that's most important. They should just understand and throw you a separate shower at work if they want to that badly. Usually that happens anyway!

D&C Posted: Jul 18, 2005 09:20 AM+

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Posted: Jul 18, 2005 09:20 AM

Re: Shower drama....how should i handle this?

They need to grow up. Everyone knows the bride doesnt see her shower invite list, so why should they blame you.

PS: why cant they throw you a work shower then if they are so mad they werent invited????

ssbride05 Posted: Jul 18, 2005 09:56 AM+

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Posted: Jul 18, 2005 09:56 AM

Re: Shower drama....how should i handle this?

Posted by lauren16

I agree, you are not at fault. Not every woman invited to the wedding has to be invited to the shower, or else there will be 100 people there! It's not a big deal and it's wonderful that you enjoyed your shower. You will share in your big day with the people you work with, and that's most important. They should just understand and throw you a separate shower at work if they want to that badly. Usually that happens anyway!

well said.. I agree