Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

I don't know if it is a mixture of being laid off so I am home unemployed or the recent baby births of friends and family or talking to so many of you with whom together we planned our weddings close to each and now you are TTC or pg but I have baby fever.

I am in the last pack of my pills and have a gyno appt on 5/9 and part of me wants to come off of the pill just to get regulated and be ready to TTC by the beginning of '06. The other part of me thinks I should stay on it for a little longer.

Why do I have baby fever and how do I get it to go away for a year or so? Is it a sign that my body is ready? I really think I wouldn't have this urge if I was working...

Any thoughts?

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

It sounds to me like you're ready to have a baby, but are skeptical because you're not working and/or just think it's better to wait until '06 to TTC.

Personally, I've never liked the pill, so I would probably suggest to get off it, start taking vitamins (just in case) and wing it until '06... but, it completely depends on you.

Then again, it might just be a 'fad'... because you keep hearing about others getting pg or TTC, u probably think you want that, too. Kinda like when everyone in HS started a new trend that everyone, little by little, would jump into. However, having a baby is different, because it's not a temporary thing that goes away... all the people you know pg, will eventually have their kids, and that's a lifetime change.

Try to think about it more. Try to determine if having a baby right now is what you really want. It doesn't hurt to stop taking the pill, but you'd have to make sure to use other means of BC, if you plan on waiting to TTC. But it also doesn't hurt to stay on the pill, and wait until your fully prepared.

Either way, good luck in making the biggest life-altering decision of your life (no pressure ).

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

Hmmm...must be something in the air. Maybe the weather getting warmer?

Seriously, I've got it BAD! And the scary thing is DH is starting with it too I think But I don't want to have a baby while we're living here, so that means waiting at least another 2 years...

Lately we've been talking about it almost every night! Tristan this and Tristan that

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

i'm with ya!!! there are so many reasons why we should not try, you know, but at the same time, we're giddy when we talk about these kids who don't exist. dh's brother is having a baby in june and my dad is having one next month, so we're like if these two can do it, then so can we...but it hits ya! i think when you start realizing just what comes with a baby and not about how cute they are, then you are ready. make sense? and yes, if you have something that takes up your time and thoughts, like work, there is less time for baby fever to hit!

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

So I am not the only one. Phew! Good to know. Maybe it IS something in the air. I don't understand the urge. Maybe this is "mating season" or something. I think I need to keep telling myself that we haven't even been married a year yet and DH is working on his MBA part time, so he won't be finished for a few years and we still have some vacations we want to take as a couple without kids.

If the babies out there weren't so darn cute I wouldn't be thinking this way

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

Nope, you're not alone! I just started taking vitamins religiously and I am getting antsy even though I still want to stick to my initial idea of being married for a year. Funny, too, because not too long ago I really questioned whether or not I wanted kids after all. Now I think about it every day.

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

Wow I could've written this post myself. DH and I made a promise we wouldn't TTC until we have a house (one of the reasons I pushed for house hunting sooner rather than later! ) And aside from one of my good friends and SIL being pregnant I should also mention that I am a Labor& Delivery room nurse so literally everyone around me IS pregant I'm so lucky to have such a great job and witness these babies being born but at the same time I can't wait for it to be my turn!



ETA: I'm glad I have you guys to confess this too because I refuse to admit to my family (who are anxiously waiting for me to get pg, espeically MIL!) that I have baby fever!

Message edited 4/29/2005 2:25:04 PM.

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

I guess we should form a support group of baby-feverish newlyweds who need to wait some time.

Maybe we need someone to post pics of horror stories or ugly babies that will slow us down a bit.

Re: Why do I have baby fever and I don't want to be pg for a few more years?

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Posted by xjulietx

Maybe we need someone to post pics of horror stories or ugly babies that will slow us down a bit.

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