Another EX question - Staying friendly w/family?

Since breaking up with my Ex over 5 yrs ago I've stayed quite friendly with 2 of his cousins (and their husbands) that I was really close with when he and I were dating. We hang out occassionally (the girls), less frequently as time passes but they always want us to come over for dinner and things like that. DH is really against becoming 'too friendly' with them and won't let me accept the double date offers.

But about 2 months ago, HE ran into HIS ex's brother and they sort of reconnected. Now his ex's brother and his wife want to kick up a friendship with us and have us over for dinner, etc. And of course, this he is okay with!! He says it's 'different' because they are older and more mature and because it's been much longer since his break up with his ex - oh please!

Anyway, what do you all think of staying friends with your Ex's family? No big deal or big no-no? Do you still maintain relationships with them or is it just too weird?

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I am friends with my Ex's family. My Dh is a little weird about it. It is really sad their only daughter was killed in a car accident so since then my ex's Mom really wants to be involved with my life. My ex and his parents where at our wedding. His Mom cried through the whole thing.

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i have always broke all contact...

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I have not remained friendly with my ex's families, it would be too weird.

But for your situation, it seems like a double standard. That would bother me.

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Well, before dh I never really had any real serious relationships, so no.

I would think it would be weird though.

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I've stayed friendly with my ex's family. His sister is one of my bridesmaids. I talk to his parents frequently. He and I haven't spoken since before I became engaged. FH doesn't have a problem with this AT ALL. I asked him before I asked to be in the bridal party if he'd be okay. He said, 'Why wouldn't I be?' I was originally going to invite my ex's parents to the wedding, but his mother told me that although they were very excited for me, it would be too difficult for them to attend. I understood and thanked them for the good wishes.

I don't think I'd be too excited to strike up a relationship with FH's ex's family. I know, it's a double standard!! I'm a terrible person!

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Posted by RedHead

i have always broke all contact...

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Same here. I would be bothered if FI had contact from the past - so I've never continued anything in fear of making him uncomfortable.

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Posted by RedHead

i have always broke all contact...

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Same here. I didnt want to talk to them then so I definitly dont want to talk to them now!

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I just broke it all of with there families. I did run into his parents 6 weeks before my wedding last year at the diner. It felt good to say I was getting married in 6 weeks.

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ug... his one ex (the one that was with him for 4.5 yrs) i think she somtimes calls his mom, and IMs his sister. it reallllly pisses me off.
at least i think hse stopped, but i know she did like a year ago b/c his mom was telling us all this stuff about her and we're like 'how do you know all this?' and she said that she called her.
god, call your NEW boyfriends family!

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I don't think it's a big deal. As long as it's been some time since the realtioship ended, and you're now frineds with the ex,m and there's no sexual tension and no misunderstanding on any side, it's fine. I've never stayed frineds with an ex's family, but I was never that close with them either, I was too young to have an independent relationship with them, although I did go to my ex's graduation and his family made such a HUGE deal over seeing me and basically ignored his then girlfriend... and it was soon enough after we broke up for me to gloat over it a little

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Sometimes two of my exes moms still call me....but that has gotten less and less over the years! One of the guys I broke up with 8 years ago! But I never contact them