Thank You Card Etiquette

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Technically, I think the bride has 1 year. But, that doesn't mean they should wait that long. A lot of times it takes a while to get the proofs, choose the Thank You, get the Thank you and then write out the Thank yous.

I would say within 6 months is a good timeline.

JMO!

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I got married in september and still have about 10-15 cards to write.

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Etiquette is 1 month after you return from the honeymoon but few brides abide by this. Personally, I will because I think there is nothing ruder than sending out late thank you cards. We went to FH's cousin's wedding May of 2004... we got the thank you card this past September

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Posted by eogara

Etiquette is 1 month after you return from the honeymoon but few brides abide by this. Personally, I will because I think there is nothing ruder than sending out late thank you cards. We went to FH's cousin's wedding May of 2004... we got the thank you card this past September

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I so agree. I get soooooo offended when I get late thank yous, I really do!

I send out thank yous immediately when I get gifts.

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I think it depends on the circumstances of the bride & groom. I also think it is petty to think people need to stick to a certain time frame. We got married in May 2004 and got ours out in October. We also sold an apartment and bought a house & moved. JMO

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Posted by eogara

Etiquette is 1 month after you return from the honeymoon but few brides abide by this. Personally, I will because I think there is nothing ruder than sending out late thank you cards. We went to FH's cousin's wedding May of 2004... we got the thank you card this past September

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I couldn't agree more. I went to two weddings in '04, one in July and one in June. have yet to get a thank you from either. I know it takes time and people are busy, but you expect people to travel and come to your wedding and share in your day and bring a gift and and...well the least you can do is send out a thank you note in a timely manner.

this is one of my biggest BIGGEST pet peeves.

sorry

/end rant

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Posted by 12-3Princess

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Posted by eogara

Etiquette is 1 month after you return from the honeymoon but few brides abide by this. Personally, I will because I think there is nothing ruder than sending out late thank you cards. We went to FH's cousin's wedding May of 2004... we got the thank you card this past September

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I so agree. I get soooooo offended when I get late thank yous, I really do!

I send out thank yous immediately when I get gifts.

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Technically, if you are including a picture, the thank you should be sent within 3 months of the wedding. However, you will find that, that depends on the photographer and how quickly you receive your thanks back. They should be done within 6 months. I wouldn't be too critical until you have to write out wedding thank yous. They take a lot longer then the shower thank yous or engagement thank yous. Writing 10 thank yous for my wedding took me an hour because they are personal and specific.

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Posted by shamrock12472

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Posted by 12-3Princess

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Posted by eogara

Etiquette is 1 month after you return from the honeymoon but few brides abide by this. Personally, I will because I think there is nothing ruder than sending out late thank you cards. We went to FH's cousin's wedding May of 2004... we got the thank you card this past September

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I so agree. I get soooooo offended when I get late thank yous, I really do!

I send out thank yous immediately when I get gifts.

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Technically, if you are including a picture, the thank you should be sent within 3 months of the wedding. However, you will find that, that depends on the photographer and how quickly you receive your thanks back. They should be done within 6 months. I wouldn't be too critical until you have to write out wedding thank yous. They take a lot longer then the shower thank yous or engagement thank yous. Writing 10 thank yous for my wedding took me an hour because they are personal and specific.

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Mine are taking forever to write, Mine will be sent out by the 4 month mark. I think this is fine.
Honestly, for the girls that want to get them out sooner than that - they need to start writing them now. It is not as easy as you think!

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I don't mean to sound harsh here....but really, it's a matter of priority. it's either a priority for one to do them, or it's not.

I sent out extremely personal engagement party thank you's. It took me 3 weekends, but I got them out after 1 1/2 months of the party. I'll have approximately the same number to write for my wedding.

there's no doubt that they take time. But one will either find the time to do them in a timely matter because it's a priority to them or they won't. (that doesn't make you a bad person)

Now, if it takes my photographer 6 months to get me my thank you pictures....I'll find another way to thank my guests because they should not have to wait for a THANK YOU because my photographer didn't get me back my proofs in a timely manner. Or order my 'thank you' picture in time. Or I didn't pick a thank you picture quickly, or whatever other excuse.

I know it's nice to send a picture with your thank you. It's lovely actually, but I think a thank you is so much more important than a picture of me and my husband.

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Posted by melissaandsean

I don't mean to sound harsh here....but really, it's a matter of priority. it's either a priority for one to do them, or it's not.

I sent out extremely personal engagement party thank you's. It took me 3 weekends, but I got them out after 1 1/2 months of the party. I'll have approximately the same number to write for my wedding.

there's no doubt that they take time. But one will either find the time to do them in a timely matter because it's a priority to them or they won't. (that doesn't make you a bad person)

Now, if it takes my photographer 6 months to get me my thank you pictures....I'll find another way to thank my guests because they should not have to wait for a THANK YOU because my photographer didn't get me back my proofs in a timely manner. Or order my 'thank you' picture in time. Or I didn't pick a thank you picture quickly, or whatever other excuse.

I know it's nice to send a picture with your thank you. It's lovely actually, but I think a thank you is so much more important than a picture of me and my husband.

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I wasn 't being critical at all. I agree that thank you's should be done in a timely fashion. On top of getting married and moving into a new house and going back to work after being gone for 2 weeks, I had hand written thank yous out within 2 weeks of my wedding and then I sent another thank you with a picture. My shower thank you's were out within a week after my shower.

My point was that I think that some may be criticizing not knowing the extend and time it takes to write thank yous for your wedding when they have yet to experience it. I was trying to be helpful, not critical.

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Posted by shamrock12472

I wasn 't being critical at all. I agree that thank you's should be done in a timely fashion. On top of getting married and moving into a new house and going back to work after being gone for 2 weeks, I had hand written thank yous out within 2 weeks of my wedding and then I sent another thank you with a picture. My shower thank you's were out within a week after my shower.

My point was that I think that some may be criticizing not knowing the extend and time it takes to write thank yous for your wedding when they have yet to experience it. I was trying to be helpful, not critical.

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Oh definitely! There can be a lot of a person's plate, especially if you're moving, or working crazy hours, going to school etc.

And what if you're guest list is 250+ people!

that's got to take a long time. I'm thankful that my list is at 125, and that means only 65 actual invitations and only 65 actual thank you notes.

I would have done what you did...sent an initial thank you, then one later with a photo.

2 weeks after the wedding too? wow, now that's good!

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I don't mean to sound harsh here....but really, it's a matter of priority. it's either a priority for one to do them, or it's not.

I don't mean to sound harsh here but I think this post is RIDICULOUS. Do you people realize you are talking about thank you cards for godsake? I'm so glad that your lives are such that you can't imagine sending out thank you cards more than a month or two after the wedding but, you know what, some people are not so lucky. I sent mine out way after your 'deadline' and, you know what, they were a priority - I just couldn't get to them sooner. If ANY of my family or friends feel like you -- I wish they would speak up because I would rather send them their check back.