Fight with Sister (MOH)

so, we were supposed to go order the BM dress today, so I had my mom and sister meet me at my house at 6:30. Well, they BOTH called to say that they were running a bit late, and would be there soon, so I ran out to CVS to quickly pick up sometnig, and put a note on the door 'be right back'. When i got bakc they were both there, and they got into my car and my sister immediatly started in, saying 'Where were you, Why did you make us wait?' when I said I had to run quick to CVS, and that i'm sorry, she kept on going on and on about how I made them wait. She was SOOOooo snotty about it, so I got upset, and started crying, and then yelling back at her, and then put the car in park, and said 'i'm not going anymnore... I don't want to go like this'. So my mom said 'sounds like someting else is going on with you' - (UM yeah, I have 4 billion things going on at work, home, my volunteer organization, as well as neen's wedding, AND MY OWN!)... but I was like, MOM you know i'm under stress, and (sister) is just adding to it by being SNOTTY about EVERY single thing!... well, my sister then got out of the car, and said 'well, i'm NOT going to go again' so I said 'fine, than don't be in my BP, I DON'T CARE'...

Well, then she left, and my mom came knocking back at my door (i ran into the house and locked it)... and she was like 'Sue, you over-reacted'.. I OVERREACTED?!?!? SHEEEEEEEEEEEE over reacted!! She has been NOTING but snotty about EVERYTING about this wedding... she has the biggest attitude, like when we were going to go to RK Bridal last Sunday, she was like, 'Oh, that's tomorrow, do we HAVE to go?, I have to clean my room!' HELLOOOOoo my wedding is in 6 months!!!!

I Feel really bad b/c my mom was crying saying that it upset her that she had to witness her daughters saying such horiable things aobut each other, and for that I really am upset but she feels that it was my fault, NOT my sisters...

Now I don't know what to do, b/c weh HAVE to get this dress order in by this weekend (I even am having NEEN go, with only 9 days till her wedding) to get fitted, and my sister pulls this crap!

I'm just so at a loss right now, b/c at this point, I am still angry, and dont' really care if' she even COMES to the wedding let alone be a part of it!... but may regret it later... and my mom said to call her and appoligize, but in my mind I didn't do anyting wrong... she got me upset, so i reacted...

now i'm hysterical, I have a horiable headache, i'm stressed, and just feel like NEVER getting married! it's NOT worth this STRESS!!!!



Thanks for listening to me vent. I need advise

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omg im sorry you had to go through that. all these things you are dealing with right now and she had to go and do that to you. i think she was wrong for saying she wont go again. that was a really hurtful thing to say. i would wait a day or two and see if she calls to apologize. i wouldnt apologize if i were you because you didnt do anything wrong. my god, you ran to the store for a min, come on!!

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Thanks for your support! i really need it right now!

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Oh Sue, I am so sorry to hear about this argument with your sister. Aren't they the best and worst at times?????
I know it can't be seen right now, but I am sure things will blow over and smooth over to have the dress ordered in time (well, I sincerely hope so). I ended up having the exact same fight with my sister over my shower and things worked out in the end

You were not at fault for running to the store quick so please do not torture yourself!

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You poor thing! Sounds like there is 'something else' going on wiht your sister not you! I'm so sorry you have to be going through this at a time which is supposed to be happy...especially with your sister...who should be sensitive to your feelings and stress than anyone else.
I wouldn't call and apologize unless it would make you feel better...sometimes my mom has a way of putting 'guilt on' that then echoes through my head...and it's easier to get rid of it than to deal wiht it... get a good night's sleep...try not to think aboout the hurtful things that were said

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sue, i'm sorry to say this, but i think the stress got the best of you...i'm sure you and your sis will talk this out

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Posted by junebride!

I wouldn't call and apologize unless it would make you feel better...sometimes my mom has a way of putting 'guilt on' that then echoes through my head...and it's easier to get rid of it than to deal wiht it... get a good night's sleep...try not to think aboout the hurtful things that were said

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Thanks! tha'ts exactly whats' going on now... i'm like, ok i have to call, b/c my mom said... ahhhhhhhhhhhh

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everything always looks clearer in the morning

just give yourself some space from your family for now...talk everything out with us cause we all know what youre going through

i understand how you would say you wouldnt want her in the bp with the way shes acting but i think youll see that you do but she needs to drop the tude and give you the support you need

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Posted by Anti-Bride

everything always looks clearer in the morning

just give yourself some space from your family for now...talk everything out with us cause we all know what youre going through

i understand how you would say you wouldnt want her in the bp with the way shes acting but i think youll see that you do but she needs to drop the tude and give you the support you need

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thanks

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Try not to stress to much. I had a similar fight with my sister. I called and apologized...not because i was wrong, but because I have more things to worry about than a stupid fight. I took a deep breath and was like ..'this is going to eventually get resolved, and things will be alot smoother if i just apologize and blame it on stress'. Well, my sister apologized right back, and things were fine. Sisters can be a BIG pain sometimes, believe me, my sister and i fight like cats and dogs, sometimes you just have to swallow it even when you are in the right.

Get some rest and start fresh tomorrow!

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Posted by CPAPPAS


Try not to stress to much. I had a similar fight with my sister. I called and apologized...not because i was wrong, but because I have more things to worry about than a stupid fight. I took a deep breath and was like ..'this is going to eventually get resolved, and things will be alot smoother if i just apologize and blame it on stress'. Well, my sister apologized right back, and things were fine. Sisters can be a BIG pain sometimes, believe me, my sister and i fight like cats and dogs, sometimes you just have to swallow it even when you are in the right.

Get some rest and start fresh tomorrow!

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Thanks! I think that is what I have to do... i just want to MOVE ON, order the dress, and THEN be mad for the next few months ... She was out b/c of a friends b-day, so I text messaged her, 'I'm sorry I made you wait', and she wrote back, 'it wasn't that, it was how you reacted'... 'but we'll talk about it later'

so I guess now we shall see....


THANKS SO MUCH FOR ALL THE SUPPORTI truly apprecitate it. you girls are the best.

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I t sounds like your sister is a little jealous....do what I do bite your tongue try and suck it up until the wedding is over

you dont know how many people I am gonna tell off AFTER MY WEDDING
i AM TRYING TO KEEP THE PEACE RIGHT NOW snd people are taking full advantage of that

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Sue, these times bring out the worst in everyone i am learning. To get to the best day you have about a million bad to get through. when my sister got married things got bad between me and her and i feel so bad to this day. It was stress, maybe jealousy to and now that i am the bride i realize how bad i must have made her feel. talk it out with her. feel better. :)

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Thanks everyone.

Yeah, there are a lot of 'bad' things associated with this wedding bull#@%!.

I told FH that I didn't even want to have the wedding anymore, and he said, I'll do whatever you want, we can cancel everyignt and get married next week if you want. If it werent' for the money we've already spent, I totally would!

I'm just in a horiable mood, don't konw how i'm going to get through the day.

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it must the august thing sue because i am in the same boat as you it seems. take it easy, that is what i keep telling myself.

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Posted by suezboss

Thanks everyone.

Yeah, there are a lot of 'bad' things associated with this wedding bull#@%!.

I told FH that I didn't even want to have the wedding anymore, and he said, I'll do whatever you want, we can cancel everyignt and get married next week if you want. If it werent' for the money we've already spent, I totally would!

I'm just in a horiable mood, don't konw how i'm going to get through the day.

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Oh, I am so sorry, that is horrible. Unfortunately, those sibling fights do happen and I'm sure she didn't mean she never would go again, I'm just sorry she isn't being more supportive. And I'm sorry that your Mom isn't seeing things from your standpoint. Here is YOUR homework: Walk up to your FH, wrap your arms around him (and I do mean tightly) and rest your head on his chest. Thats what you need to do.

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I'm totally having problems with one of my sisters, so I understand. Her kids are still in the wedding, but she's not doing anything herself anymore for it (had to find another reader).

Seems like weddings really do bring out the worst in people.

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wow that really ***** i think it's good that you guys at least agreed to talk-SHE sounds like she has something on her mind, to fly off the handle like that... what's goin on with her??? hope you can work things out...i have 2 sisters i know how it can be