Friend trouble (sorry Long)

2 of my closet friends are being very distant from me - they are not returning my calls and if they do it's almost like they do it when they know I'm not going to be home - both of them are in my wedding party and I don't understand what there problem is - it would be nice to ask them but they do not return my calls - and email is out of the question because I tried that once and one of them got offended that I couldn't talk to her about the problem in person. So I don't know what to do - I have been friends with the both of them since childhood and it make me sad and angry that they are acting this way. They didn't even call me to tell me they received my STD - I know that may be silly but I know that would. It makes me so angry and my FH is fed up with their nonsense as well - he feels that they take me for granted (obviously this is not the 1st time something like this has happened) I just don't know what to do anymore
Thanks for letting me vent!!!

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

If they will not return their calls what about just showing up at their house one day. That way they will have to talk to you.

Good luck

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I am so sorry you are going through this Jen I haven't talked to my sister (maid of honor) in weeks I don't know why she is not talking to me but I gave up on her. If she want's to talk to me she knows where I am I have too much going on right now to worry about her

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

Could it be that maybe they are planning your shower or something and just don't want to slip when they talk to you?
Just a thought. Good luck!!!

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

I would just keep trying to call them...If you think they are really purposefully trying to avoid you...maybe you should re-think having them in your BP. I know that is harsh but if they are flaky now, what happens later, when you need them!
Either way i would call them and leave a message saying it is REALLY IMPORTANT that you speak to them THAT DAY! Maybe they will repsond....if they don't i would give them their walking papers

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

You could call and leave a message saying it's very important you speak to them, you could send an e-mail just saying you've been trying to get in touch with them because you need to talk and please call. Maybe call them at work? Or visit them if need be. Whatever you do (or don't do), try not to let the situation bother you. People have issues or their own problems which might have nothing to do with you. Enjoy planning your wedding!

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

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Posted by The Original 2nd-time-around

Could it be that maybe they are planning your shower or something and just don't want to slip when they talk to you?
Just a thought. Good luck!!!

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I wish - my wedding is too far away for them to be doing that - Thanks everyone for your advice....I am going to call one of them tonight and leave a message - the other one I'm not gonna bother with because I've been thru this with her so many times and she knows what she is doing-I just have to decide when she does finally call me if I want to pick up the phone and continue our friendship - I hate this stuff I feel like I'm back in High School Thanks Again

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Posted by nov2004bride

I am so sorry you are going through this Jen I haven't talked to my sister (maid of honor) in weeks I don't know why she is not talking to me but I gave up on her. If she want's to talk to me she knows where I am I have too much going on right now to worry about her

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sorry to hear that about your sister what is everyone's problem why do they have to be that way

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

Question? Are they single? Could they be jealous that you are planning your wedding and they wish they were planning theirs?

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I would leave a message saying how I felt.

As in: 'I've been trying to get in contact with you for a while, and I don't know why you haven't returned my calls. I feel badly because I feel like you're purposely being distant from me. I hope everything is ok. Please call me - I will be 'place' @ 'time' tonight... it'd be great if you can then.'

Good luck!

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Posted by aimerliny

Question? Are they single? Could they be jealous that you are planning your wedding and they wish they were planning theirs?

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They both have BF's not engaged yet. I left a message last night saying to please call me back, I've been trying to get in touch with you - so we'll see what happens - the other one is just a lost cause, I'm giving up

Thanks everyone for your advice - I will keep you all posted on this situation

Re: Friend trouble (sorry Long)

Jen----

I know how you feel oddly enough I have the same thing going on with 2 of my BM's. I have tried like crazy to do things with them, to call them and I get nothing then when something does come up and we are all together and someone else (because they don't) ask me about the wedding plans and I answer they both go I didn't know that, you didn't tell me that and then I say because you NEVER call me back and then it gets dropped. Anyway, the way I am dealing with it now seeing this has been going on for over a year I don't try anymore I have too much to do I don't have time to be consumed by their hurt anymore. When all is said and done they will have their guilt to live with.

Meri----

PS: 1 is married w/kids and the other is single for anyone that was curious!!!