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Re: Ladies, make me feel better, but PLEASE no flames...

Why are they so concerned with the size of everyone's rings? Tell them to give it a rest and ignore them as best you can.

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I am so sorry. How rude and inappropriate. Don't let these people bring you down and make you feel insecure. Wear the ring with pride and keep your chin up, you are getting MARRIED.

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your first line said it all...

i personally find it sickening how commercialized the whole wedding process has become. i honestly didn't even want an engagement ring, and my father tried to talk FH out of it. we compromised and got a 'small' one. my FSIL's is 3 times my size, and honestly, i find it borderline gaudy and ostentatious.

size does not matter! it's how you use it

unless FH's cousin has $$$ to pi$$ away, think of how much you just saved towards a down payment on a home...

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Can you say jealousy & stupidity?

Tell them to go scratch!

I am sure your ring is beautiful and its what is behine it (the commitment) that is what matters!!!

Wear it & wear it proud!!

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Well, my FH's cousin has a somewhat obnoxious wife. Do you know what she says to me at our engagement party?
'Oh, I like your ring....it's so plain and simple.'
A subtle put-down for sure!
I didn't let it bother me considering the source, and being that the ring is exactly what I wanted.

Later that same night.......she says to me......have fun planning your wedding. It goes by so fast, and then the only thing to look forward to is having children.

I was thinking in my head, 'yeah, get a life. That may be all you have to look forward to, but I have TONS of other stuff to look forward to!'

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If that were me, and because I can be a nasty beyotch at times, I would respond: the bigger the ring, the bigger the problems... NOT that you should do that, I just can't keep my mouth closed at times

But as everyone else has said, its childish, immature and jealousy. And good for you for not letting them see that they get to you. You have nothing to feel bad about. A marriage is not about the carats, its supposed to be about love.

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Doesn't matter how big the ring is. Some people are so superficial. Doesn't change your happiness. If you love your ring then that's all that matters. Tell the rest of the people to kiss your as$!! I would however ask your FH what the hell is up w. his family!!


My center stone is an emerald. That's what I wanted.

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OMG! I Cannot believe people actually have the nerve to say stuff like that!! I'm so sorry these people are putting you through this. WHO CARES WHAT SIZE THE RING IS!! It's the love between you and your FH and the committment that matters most. That bothers me so much, when people make it all about the ring or something else superficial. That girl sounds pretty miserable to me and they are all jealous of what you & FH have. Don't let them get you down!

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That is just plain WRONG! Why can't people just keep their thoughts to themselves.

I second what everyone else says, its the commitment and love between you and FH.

Just because someone gets a 'big' ring doesn't mean they are happy and have a great relationship.( not saying that people with larger rings don't just means it doesn't make a realationship better) You know what you and your FH have and that's all that matters

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I got alot of comments because I wanted a sapphire instead of a diamond. Where your rings, enjoy them and dont let anyone make you feel like you dont want to wear them.

Personally, any time someone comments on my ring, I usually answer 'how rude' with a big smile on my face. They are usually so taken back that I said that, the comment stops.


Hope this helps.

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Your fi's cousin is extremely rude and definitely speaks out of jealously. I'm sure your ring is beautiful and as long as you are both happy together, that is the best revenge.

My fi's uncle wouldn't even look at my ring when i held it out for him to see. and his cousin (male) didn't even congratulate us. we were offended, and are pissed we even have to invite them to the wedding! We just have to remember that jealousy can make people act horribly!

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I can not believe they are saying things like that to you! How absolutely rude and immature!! Wear your ring and wear it with pride! It is a beautiful gift chosen for you and given to you by your future husband and that is ALL that matters - not how big it is, what the setting is, the clarity, etc. etc. These people making comments about your ring are obviously lacking in self esteem and feel the need to put others down to make them feel better about themselves. I would simply tune them out completely if they dare to say something rude again, or - maybe even tell them that you do not appreciate their rude comments. Is it possible for your FH to talk some sense into them since they're his family?

In any case - more for you! Don't let their idiocy get to you! They are the ones who are small and petty, and your ring is Beautiful!!!!!

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I'm sure your ring is beautiful. I don't know what is wrong with people. Some people are so rude. The ring is irrelevant anyway. I know a lot of women who did not have a ring or a wedding for that matter-just City Hall. They are some of the happiest couples that I know.

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It's happened to me too - just ignore them. You know how much you love your ring, and that's all that matters.

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OMG! How ridiculous! It's not the ring that matters, it's the man behind the ring who DOES! I know it's hard...try to ignore them!

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Don't let them get you down and please continue to wear your ering after the wedding. Your FH would probably be really hurt if you didnt.
If you are really self conscious about the size you can always try a different setting. FH and I are are both students so my ering is not that big (3/4 carat), but I have a very unusual setting. All my friends (who have bigger diamonds) love my ring and all say that they wish they had my setting (one has even gotten thir setting chnage to me more similar to the one I have).
Sometimes people are totally insensitive, but you just have to go with the flow & don't over react. If you think that they are trying to get a rise out of you . . . Dont give them the satisfaction!

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People are just ridiculous! My e-ring is relatively small, but no one's bugged me about it because our families - (1) know better and (2) know that FI and I have such a strong relationship that the size of the ring doesn't matter. Also because I told my FI I didn't WANT a big stone - I ride the NYC subway and I would die with anxiety if I had to wear something that was worth that much on there everyday!

Just ignore them and concentrate on your relationship, your wonderful wedding and the wonderful life you're gonna have with your FH.

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The size and/or price of your engagement ring is NO ONE's business !!
Don't let them make you feel uncomfortable, they should be embarassed by their rude behavior !! -
And no matter what you have or what you acomplish or what you do in life, there is ALWAYS someone one step ahead of you somewhere !! - If you love your FH, you'd marry him w/ a piece of coal on your finger - right ?? So why let these people make you uncomfortable ??-
Throw it back at them and make them look like the materialistic fools they are-
'FH picked out this ring for me and I wouldn't change it for the world-it is exactly what I would have picked - I LOVE it - blah blah' lay it on thick - I'm sure it's not making him feel good about himself either listening to them go on about the ring he gave to you ! - Some people just don't think before they speak !

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I know how you feel, and to be honest I love my ring, but of everyone i know it is def. the smallest. someone (remain nameless) recently made a comment comparing mine to someone elses something about it being understated, so i made a nasty comment in return, I said 'well I guess brian doesnt love me as much as XXX loves XXX then right?' Boy that shut her up quick at the end of the night she apologized and realized that that was wrong of her to say. I thought it as pretty funny because a Big expensive ring meas nothing about love but some people correlate the 2 how obnoxious