Alright, be Honest Ladies--MOB Dress Question

What is your opinion on the Mother of the Bride wearing a black gown to her daughter's wedding? My mom and I went shopping for her gown yesterday and she fell in love with a beautiful gown that only came in 4 colors, none of which had any appeal (I totally agreed) except for Black. The sample was in black and it looked BEAUTIFUL on her!! It really doesn't look ALL black, because there is plenty of silver accenting all over it. It's absolutely gorgeous, but she still thinks there is a certain 'stigma' to wearing black to her daughter's wedding. What do you ladies think? I really don't care, because my mom looks so beautiful in black and in this dress and she loved it! I don't care what color she wears, as long as she is by my side that day! Opinions please! Will people talk I told her I would ask the LIWEDDINGS girls and get back to her! LOL she liked that idea!

thank you!

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I think it's fine and if thats what she feels most comfortable in, they she should wear black. My mom wore black and it looked beautiful. She was so happy to be able to wear that color.

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My mom got a beautiful black dress with silver accents for my sisters wedding (march 26!!). I don't see anything wrong with it. Nowadays it is common for bridal parties to wear black when back in the day it was unheard of. I think ANY color is fine...except for white

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I think that if she likes the dress and looks good in it, it shouldn't matter what the color is. I personally think black is fine!

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I think she should go for it! I don't think people are as sensitive to color do's and dont's as they were several years ago.
If she absolutely loves it, and so do you, then it was meant to be!!

Can you post a pic of the gown?

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Black is considered appropriate for weddings -- especially evening weddings -- these days. If she's still concerned about it, maybe she could wear a colorful accessory (a scarf or shawl?) to make the ensemble festive?

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I think that is fine! I wouldn't mind if my mother wore black. As long as you both love it! you are going to both be gorgeous!!

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My sisters MIL wore black to her wedding but and comments were passed but I think it had more to do with the fact that it was a estelle's $59 special (that she didnt get altered and was 6 inches shorter in the back than the front and she wore black leather shoes that she was so proud that she got them in Walmart for 1/2 price) more than the fact that it was black.

MY FMIL wants to wear black but for her she will wear something classy and fancy and it will fit properly. So I am not worrying about her wearing black although she is a huge fan of leopard print (lets all pray she dosnt find a dress in leopard print)

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My mom wore all black to my sister' wedding, but then again so did the BM. I think black only adds elegance. I think my mom is wearing black to my wedding. I think its great.

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I think it's only a problem if the person WEARING black is wearing it 'to make a statement' about their feelings on the wedding. If you mom just liked the dress, it's no problem!

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Thanks Ladies! you girls are the best!! yeah, that's what I was thinking PrincessRose--it would only be offensive if she was doing it to make a statement--which anyone who knows us, knows that is sooooo FAR from the truth!
It is a day affair (11:00 ceremony, reception 1-6p.m.) does that really matter though?

ETS: I took a pic of it with my camera phone, I'll have to ask FH if there is a way to get it on the computer!

Jennifer-- thank you sweetie!

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I think that it is fine, my mommy loves to wear black, she finds it to be 'SO ELEGANT',lol, so if thats what will make her comfy and happy then go for it!

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Posted by PrincessRose

I think it's only a problem if the person WEARING black is wearing it 'to make a statement' about their feelings on the wedding. If you mom just liked the dress, it's no problem!

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I wear black to almost every wedding I go to. I never thought of it as making a statement, but you are right - some people could interpret it that way. My other dressy dresses are red- which is traditionally the color of the mistress... Oopps.

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No, I'm thinking in terms of an FMIL I know.... She'd BETTER NOT wear black.

LOL

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Hehehehe....I would like my FMIL to wear black (not as a statement). She wants to wear wine and my BM are in red and I have asked her 3 daughters to be BM or at least wear red so they match when they walk down the aisle (they live in a nother country so its not like I can go shopping wiht them). I think it will clash, but i want her to wear what she wants to wear.

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i think its fine!
my mom is wearing a blue dress but showed me a black dress that looks better on her, but she wont wear it.... i love it though...

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I should show my mom this thread when she gets home later! Thanks everyone!! I know she hasn't stopped thinking about the dress!!! i'll try to post a pic later!

thank you!

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I think it's totally fine! Black is an elegant, classy color. Tell your mom to go for it! She's going to look Gorgeous!!

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My mom wore black to my brother's wedding and looked beautiful. I think its fine, and especially since your wedding is in November. I don't think people really think of black as a mourning color anymore, its just elegant.