My Wonderful Weekend -- NOT!!!

I haven't been on much lately because my father is STILL in the hospital (12 days and counting). And between working and running around back and forth to the hospital, the little bear cub doesn't know who I am anymore! She's either asleep when I get home, or almost asleep. It's been really rough and I'm totally depressed and stressed and I'm just at my wits end. The other night when I got home from work, I held her for a few minutes and then I had to run out again and she cried when I gave her back to Joe -- it broke my heart. Then on Friday when I could spend some more time with her, all she did was cry!!! She doesn't know her mommy anymore!

Then to top it off, after the hospital on Friday night, Joe and I tried to do some shopping at the Lake Success Shopping Center and ALL THE FRIGGIN STORES WERE EITHER CLOSED OR CLOSING BY 9!!!!!!! WTF is up with that??? HELLO, it's 5 days before Christmas!!!!

By the time we picked up Gianna and got home, it was 11:30 and there were no parking spots on our block and I had to park on the corner of the other block -- a place I never park since my car was broken into in that particular spot.

Sat morning we had to go to a b'day out in Hauppauge and I had asked Joe to move my car, but there were no spots. Ok, we get home at 8 and I told him to go check on my car (since there still were no spots on the block) and he comes running back in and says 'Baby, where did you park?' and I said 'you know where, on the corner' and he said 'IT'S NOT THERE!!!!' -- WHAT!!! You better be joking buddy and he wasn't!!! I go running to the corner and stood in the empty space of what was my car and just stood there and sobbed. What the heLL else is going to happen?? This has been a HORRIBLE 2 weeks and now I have NO CAR!!!!

Not to mention the car seat base and the stroller are in the car, plus it's my baby!! It was my first baby!!! After an hour and a half of trying to get through, we finally found out that my car was towed!!! Thank God it wasn't stolen and thank God Joe took all the bags out of the trunk!!! My poor car was garage kept from the day I brought it home brand spanking new in a snow storm!!! And since I moved to this godforsaken neighborhood, it's been broken into, hit and now TOWED!!!

Apparently they put up a 'NO STANDING' sign in the past week and I was the lucky one who got towed!! Two other people just got $120 tickets, but not me!!! I'm getting hit with a $185 towing fee, plus storage fee on top of the friggin ticket, so when all is said and done, it's going to cost me $350 to get my car today!!!! Merry Christmas to me, huh?

I've had it. I could care less about this Christmas -- my shopping isn't finished, don't know when my father is coming home, I sent out the cards, but I didn't write anything to anybody (I couldn't write to 140 people, I'm just lucky I got them done period) and all I want to do is go to sleep and wake up from this nightmare month from hell.



Edited to say: The other thing that happened was we went to take Gianna's pix at BRU and what a fiasco that was AGAIN!! I forgot the website info, so I'll post it tomorrow with my story!!

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I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I hope that your father will be home soon and feeling better. I am sorry they towed your car. Everything always seems to happen at once like that. I'm sure your baby knows who mommy is but I'm sure being apart is difficult for both of you right now.

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Awww I am so sorry for everything that is going on. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and let it all go. Sometimes there is no way to salvage it and you need to give into it.

The one good thing, you have your beautiful baby girl and its her first christmas..something you can never get back. So whenever you have a spare moment, just sit back and realize this..

Things may seem crazy now..but I am praying that things start to look up for you and your family! You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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Aw Deb...when it rains....

All I can say is that it will be over in about 3 days and life can get back to normal. Throwing the holidays in the mix of all the other stuff going on for you is very hard. I am sure your father's illness is taking a lot more of a toll on you than you realize. Try to stay calm and just don't over do it - look - do what you can - Christmas can be really stressful and it doesnt' need to be picture perfect. Remember that! On Friday you'll be holding your cub and finding some quiet time.

Feel better!

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MANY hugs and sympathy are coming to you from me and Nicky.

What a heinous weekend!

I can't even begin to try to tell you 'it's not that bad', because you won't believe me and I don't blame you. I can, however, tell you that things ARE going to get better. I promise. You just have to hang in there and your luck will turn. In the meantime, we are all here for you, no matter what, and will listen, give advice and/or hug you, whenever you want.

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I have no words to help just lots of support and

I'll send some good vibes your way

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But look at what you DO have for Christmas, Gianna

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You go home and give that little girl tons of hugs and kisses and it will make you feel better!!!!!!!

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Sweetie, I am SOOOO sorry you are going through so much of this! I know how you feel. Of everything that happened, I'm sure the worst parts are your father, and your not being able to spend time with your baby. So, how about bringing your baby to the hospital to visit with you and your dad? That way, you spend time with both at the same time, and you are not denied time with either of them. I did that with my little girl a lot. She was fine, and it really cheered up my dad a lot (as he'd gotten quite depressed after being in the hospital for over a month). You NEED time with your girl - I know exactly how you feel, and believe me, you need to be with her (more for you than for her). As everyone reminded me, she will always remember who her mommy is, so at this stage, it's more for us. But, that's important too - so forget the darned shopping (people WILL understand), and just spend time with her! Hug, kiss, and be with her! That will make you happy! I'm praying for your dad (and for you)!!!

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Thank you all very much!!! I greatly appreciate all your support! I know the most important thing this year is Gianna and having her with us, but it's bittersweet with my dad and all. As I'm typing he's getting a pacemaker and defibrilator put in, so hopefully this will help him and he won't end up in the hospital all the time! I just hope they let him go by Christmas Eve!

Lauren, I would bring her up there, but I totally SKEEVE the hospital (who doesn't) and he's in a room that has 3 other beds and there's no room. I did give him pictures of the baby and my nephew was able to go up for 15 minutes to see him! As soon as he comes home I'm bringing his 'Gigi' to see her Papa!!!!

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AWEEEE, Deb
What a little run-around youve been through!

I SWORE this year (and MANY times before) that Id get my shopping done EARLY...UGH...
and my cards, I havent finished yet either
I did them in 2 or three random bunches, and now I have the 3rd bunch sitting on my table. I ran out of photo cards so I wont be able to send out any more cards. I ordered 40 and wound up writing more than 60 cards (can we do email Xmas cards??)

Anyway, I hope your dad gets better quick, and I hope he's hugging his precious grandchildren SOOON. and dont you DARE even THINK GIanna doesnt know who her mommy is! There is NO scent or touch in the WORLD like mommy's to any baby on earth.
Im SURE Gianna is in heaven on earth when mommy is with her...

and Im so annoyed to hear about the car! UGHHH.

Anyway, sorry to babble. Sending you big hugs and kisses !!!!!!!

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Aww Deb, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, esp at this time of year. I hope your Dad is on mend soon and you get to spend Christmas all together.

Lots of s to you!!

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Deb,
I'm sorry the weekend was so bad, and that you have so much going on. I pray your Dad gets better soon, and he'll be home and can see his 'Gigi'
In the meantime, sneak in as many hugs and kisses to Gianna as you can, that's sure to brighten up your day

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and dont you DARE even THINK GIanna doesnt know who her mommy is! There is NO scent or touch in the WORLD like mommy's to any baby on earth.
Im SURE Gianna is in heaven on earth when mommy is with her...

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I agree 100%. Gianna loves her Mommy!!!!

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Thank you all SOOO MUCH!!! It means the world to me to have this much support from my friends!!!

My father had the pacemaker & defibrilator put in yesterday and everything went really well. Of course, typical of my father, they had to totally knock him out, whereas everyone else just gets a local. I wasn't able to see him because he didn't get back to his room until 7 last night and my mother told me to stay home and let him rest. The dr said that he might be able to go home tomorrow, which would be the BEST Christmas present we could get!!!

Again, I thank you all for your support and helping me through this and being there to listen to me vent!!!!

As for my little cub, she was all snuggly with me last night and just kept holding me hand!!!

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Deb, my gosh! I am so sorry that you are going through all this at the same time. I pray that your father will be well enough to see Gianna soon. In the grand scheme of things yes the car being towed is a big expense but at least you get it back and it wasn't stripped.

My heart really goes out to you!!!! I can only offer you hugs and love right now.